Long Covid and Holidays

[YellowRoses100]

Hi

Next year is the start of the Big Date birthdays. 50...the big one coming. My friends who I have known since school so over 40 years are really keen to do a girls weekend to a European City.There will be 4 of us. I see two loads and one not so much as she lives further away and had her kids much younger than us. But still good mates. The problem is one of the friends let's call her Poppy. Has long covid. I am very sympathetic to Poppy. She was part of my bubble during covid. Prior to covid I always looked out for her as she has suffered on and off with mental health issues at one point being sectioned. She was discharged to my home for home treatment and she stayed with me and my family for 6 months. So I am not minimising her illness. But how do we do a holiday? Even for 3 nights.She is fussing asking whether we can stay much more local so if she needs to return home she can? I'm a bit miffed to be honest as I wanted to fly somewhere like Valencia and spend a lovely weekend bar hopping, eating tapas and going to the beach.

Wwyd?

For her birthday you do what she'd like - somewhere nice and local, easy to pop home and just as she'd like.

For your big birthday, you arrange what you'd like! Not everyone can come to every event and if she'd rather not attend the holiday then that's absolutely fine, it doesn't mean you and others can't pop off abroad. Perhaps add in a meal close to home or similar if you'd like to celebrate with her, but don't base your birthday on someone else's preferences.

I’ve got Long Covid. I could no more fly to Valencia than fly to the moon. I can’t even walk down the road.

I've had long Covid for the past 2+ years and it really has changed ruined my life. I've improved a lot but I'm very aware how essential it is that I get plenty of rest and take lots of breaks. This is the opposite of how I was pre-Covid where I was constantly on the go and managed on very little sleep. Let's just say it's been a learning experience. 🙄

This past year I've been away on two weekend breaks with friends. I had to pace myself so that meant no late nights for me, and some days needing to take an afternoon nap if we were planning to go out for a late dinner etc. It didn't change what my friends did. One friend was very understanding and would go out for a run in the morning while I had a bit of a lie-in etc. Whereas another friend was a bit of a bitch about it.

I think you should go ahead with your Valencia plans. If your friend with long Covid wants to come, she needs to understand that may mean she spends some time alone in the hotel resting while the rest of you are out having fun. You shouldn't have to change your plans to fit around her but at the same time, don't make her feel awful if she's not able to stay out in bars with you etc.

Thanks for your comments. I really want her to come as she is the friend I am closest too and see rhe most. Maybe I'll have a chat with her and make thw suggestions about her taking it east when we're away.