What can I do with the weekend

[Starbear]

BC & DH,in another lifetime I used to work weekends, on the odd weekend off I was a free agent and did as I pleased. Now,on weekdays with just me & the boy I've got it all sussed. I can't seem to enjoy the weekend. I still have some chores to do, hate shopping and don't really like meeting friends just for coffee & a chat (I do that at work & weekdays) DH sadly has his weekend mapped out, Saturday tries to have a lie in, read papers play with the boy chores shopping, lunch a sandwich in a coffee shop or at home, 2.30 - 3pm sport on TV at the ground or in the pub, 6pm dinner prepared by my fair hands.
Sunday breakfast read the papers, take the boy to church, lunch 1pm 4.30 School work marking books and planning PE activities. If friends over lunch at 2pm otherwise dinner 5.30pm watch T.V. Help I'm really bored. Sorry, to bore you all

do you map your days like that all the time? like with times you do everything? so every Sunday you have lunch at 1pm?

It's sad isn't it? Help ME! DH needs have the day mapped out so he can figure out when to do school work (that's why I would hate to be a teacher)

lol

surely not on the weekend though - or at least not ALL of the weekend? He could just do the work in the evening?

could you try and be, I don't know, spontaneous? Go out for a whole day?

when's the last time you came into central London and took ds for an ice cream in Traf Square and just wandered around? could you do something like that?

traf sq - i meant leicester square - you know, those cafes with 100 flavours of ice cream etc. Mine go mad for those.

It's the weekend crowds I hate. I do that on weekday and have done for years. I know the West End like the back of my hand. I'm going next weekend to the South Bank with another rugby widow. Go on have another try I'm listening. With your help I might get a solution. I need a shake up but what!

how exciting that I get to organise your life on my own. I am really bad at organising anything at all lol.

Right, well we were doing spontaneous weren't we? Do you like spending time with your partner then? Are we doing family days out?

There are lots of places in your neck of the woods. Days out at Hampton Court, loads of National Trust places etc.

I quite like slobbing at home - are you not a slobber?

I've just filled the washing machine and got DS off the telly. I'm really cross with DH but can't come up with constructive arguement and he will moan about being so tired, He has had four operations on his hip. Have to go DH has come home early maybe feeling guilty

ah OK, I've got you. So he plays no part in the weekend? I imagine you're not bored, but resentful, a different thing. Well, if he's feeling guilty maybe you can harness that and try and sort something out?

Starbear, I think I can say for everyone how much we're missing you on the thread you've created! How are you?

Fedda, Pants Have put on weight not lost it. Life too stressful. Looking forward to DS starting school so I can work out and make sensible food. I'm using food when I'm bored and frustrated. Sorry I couldn't stick with you all. How are you?

Foxinsocks, yes I am resentful but really it is misplaced. As I should be angry with the Education Minsters and people who love to constantly change the school curriculum. Dh is head of PE, at school every weekday running after-school activities for no extra pay or time off. He then comes home and this week worked until 10pm on school work. He then always has more stuff to do at the weekend. I can't change this, if we want to keep our house. Of course, he loves sport but I don't. So I need to give him and myself a break and do things with the boy. We had a row yesterday evening. To be fair the weekend I described works for him to keep his sanity but not for me So I need to change and work out a plan for me and the boy. I don't want to be a single Mum but I may need some single mum ideas to keep me sane. (sad)

I think it sounds too much? Why is he doing stuff every day?

All I can say is that I have a dh who works weekends so I understand what it is like but he actually HAS to work. When he used to choose to do extra stuff on the weekends then yes, it used to piss me off until we sat down and had a chat about it all.

I quite like being on my own (I work full time so relish the space) but what I found helpful was finding friends who I could share weekend stuff with - so picking up and dropping off at parties, just having a cup of tea at home, going out for walks because it is just easier having other adults around when you're out with kids really isn't it?

Perhaps lean on your friends a bit more. But it doesn't sound like this is sustainable long term? Is there anything he can do to try and cut the workload a bit?

I wished. We have talked about it before. I think he is very diligent. I know the school expect him to do more as they have build a new sports complex. I think your right I'll lean on friends a bit more. Maybe, if we're out he'll miss us and say sod the work.
We also have the holidays maybe we can pack a few days out but again it gets so crowded.

Hi, Starbear, i had a very good success loosing almost 5 kg, that was before Christmas. What helped was taking advice to avoid bread, potatoes, pasta, rice and ceeal after 6PM (Joanna Hall). it was hard though as my DH eats all these things for dinner which is at 6:30 or later so after a lot of situations i had to go through to keep it like that i started to eat pots, rice and pasta with my meals and I'm gaining weight. It's typical, once you stop, it's back or worse so I need to start on something i can do for life may be trying to reduce portion size rather then some food. one thing is important for me is keep motivated, stay positive and not to give up. You've inspired me and the others, Starbear, if you ever feel like coming back, I'm sure I can say for all of us that we'd be delighted. Take care, all the best.
Fedda