Holidaying with wider family - who does all the organising?

[roisin]

At half term we (family of 4) went away with my mum and bro, plus my other bro and his family.

My mum and I booked/arranged the holiday - she paid .
At her request dh and I sat down with her and did some planning organising for the hol, including who should bring what food-wise (self-catering). Then we emailed db and sil.

I think db raises a few eyebrows at my sort of careful planning/organising (as it's not his style at all), but they did seem to appreciate it, and everyone said how well it all worked out.

Anyway At Easter db and sil have booked a cottage and invited us all to stay , which is lovely and very kind of them. But dh and my mum have already asked me if I am going to get everyone organised again!

I'm a bit hesitant and think really it's up to db and sil to plan/organise how they want, or to ask me to do it if they want.

What do you think?

Think your gut reaction is right. If I invited someone on holiday then they took over organising I'd be .

Do, of course, offer to help in any way you can and let them know how much you're looking forward to it.

yes agree, you can only offer.
why not make a joke of it "i'm happy to organise everyone before we go if you want me to" or something... but don't go on about it, just mention it once and leave it.

But do you not think it's a bit pushy to even ask? I think I'll just leave it.

I think dh and mum want me to organise everyone, but I'm happy to go with the flow and see what happens.

Just go with a 'if there's anything I can do, let me know'. Then they can't ever say no-one offered to help but you're not being at all pushy.