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Passport in maiden name

28 replies

Nemesias · 10/08/2023 08:39

This is probably a stupid question I got married a while ago and have changed my name in a few places but not my passport. I’m going away in September to Cyprus, plane ticket and passport are both in my maiden name - bank cards, driving licence etc are in my married name. Obviously I know nobody is going to be checking them but it won’t matter that I haven’t changed my passport as long as it matches the ticket?

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Forgoodnesssakewhatnow · 10/08/2023 08:40

Yep as long as the ticket and passport are the same you’re all good. I was like that for about 6 years.

Monkeytapper · 10/08/2023 08:40

correct

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Nemesias · 10/08/2023 08:43

I thought that would be the case just needed it confirming for my own peace of mind! Thank you!

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smartiesneberhadtheanswer · 10/08/2023 08:46

YANBU to use 'maiden name' - you are not. Victorian chattel.

modgepodge · 10/08/2023 08:47

Yep I have done 8 years on my maiden name passport - I only replaced it 18m before I got married and it seemed a waste to replace again so soon. Especially once brexit happened and I would have to have a nasty blue brexity one 😂 Never had an issue, just made sure to always book in maiden name.

It might be different if you have children though as I have heard of sometimes people having issues travelling with children who have a different surname to you - my husband will be with us anyway but if anything happened and I had to come back alone with our child I thought it would be easier if we had the same surname on our passports. Loads of people have different surnames to their kids though so I feel like this must be a common problem but I have heard of people having trouble?

CharlotteStreetW1 · 10/08/2023 08:47

smartiesneberhadtheanswer · 10/08/2023 08:46

YANBU to use 'maiden name' - you are not. Victorian chattel.

What would you call it?

(Not being snarky - genuine question)

PuttingDownRoots · 10/08/2023 08:50

Its no issue as long as you always remember to book stuff in your birth name. There's no compulsion to change your name anyway in the UK, its a choice.

otherwayup · 10/08/2023 08:55

Reason no 472 that women shouldn't change their names!!
Would men accept this inconvenience once they were married?

One of the reasons I knew dh was for me, is that he totally respected and understood why I should keep my name - in the same way he was once we married!

Kittyhasababy · 10/08/2023 08:59

smartiesneberhadtheanswer · 10/08/2023 08:46

YANBU to use 'maiden name' - you are not. Victorian chattel.

😄Are you suggesting that Victorian women were chattel, then??

ActDottie · 10/08/2023 09:09

I’m the same as you OP everything else in married name but I didn’t want to change my passport as if just renewed it and didn’t want to pay money again!! I think it’s fine as long as you travel in your maiden name.

MNetcurtains · 10/08/2023 10:18

Mine's still in my maiden name, as is my driving license. I didn't want to go to the trouble of changing everything back if it didn't work out. Been married 40 years 😬

Barch1 · 10/08/2023 10:21

Don’t worry it’s fine. I kept my maiden name on my passport and as long as it matches your booking it’s ok

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Nemesias · 10/08/2023 11:27

smartiesneberhadtheanswer · 10/08/2023 08:46

YANBU to use 'maiden name' - you are not. Victorian chattel.

It’s common parlance - absolutely everyone knew what I was referring to by saying maiden name. Why would I choose another word?

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Nemesias · 10/08/2023 11:27

Thanks to everyone who made useful comments you’ve put my mind at rest

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smartiesneberhadtheanswer · 10/08/2023 13:18

@Nemesias

Because language matters and maiden name is a repugnant, patriarchal term.

You could say 'my original name' or 'my name' and 'my married name'.

Hopefully the tradition of women changing their name to match men's will disappear soon anyway and we won't have to worry about any of this Smile

Pigsinspaaace · 10/08/2023 16:10

Useful thread, tah. In a similar boat, just married and I plan on sharing the same name as my husband in official docs.

My 'original' name also derives from an abusive bloke so the purity feminists showing up on this thread can get in the sea. Funny how they're always banging on about men controlling women and never seem to notice how bloody controlling they are in turn. Irony bypass.

BarbaraV · 10/08/2023 16:20

smartiesneberhadtheanswer · 10/08/2023 13:18

@Nemesias

Because language matters and maiden name is a repugnant, patriarchal term.

You could say 'my original name' or 'my name' and 'my married name'.

Hopefully the tradition of women changing their name to match men's will disappear soon anyway and we won't have to worry about any of this Smile

Saying my original name would be very confusing. Everyone understands maiden name. Pipe down.

AgathaMystery · 10/08/2023 16:22

I don’t have my husbands surname on my passport and in 20yrs I’ve never had an issue. DC have my husbands surname but again, no real issues.

GCWorkNightmare · 10/08/2023 16:27

Pigsinspaaace · 10/08/2023 16:10

Useful thread, tah. In a similar boat, just married and I plan on sharing the same name as my husband in official docs.

My 'original' name also derives from an abusive bloke so the purity feminists showing up on this thread can get in the sea. Funny how they're always banging on about men controlling women and never seem to notice how bloody controlling they are in turn. Irony bypass.

ding ding ding! Bingo card filled.

Wonen only ever borrow names from men.

Those that change their names because they don’t like them or whoever gave it to them never think to deed poll when they can. Always need a man to come and rescue them years later from the awful name (that amazingly doesn’t bother their brothers at all).

Unless the name you’re going to share with your husband is a new one you’ve both chosen to take, don’t come after the feminists.

Toiletti · 10/08/2023 16:38

smartiesneberhadtheanswer · 10/08/2023 13:18

@Nemesias

Because language matters and maiden name is a repugnant, patriarchal term.

You could say 'my original name' or 'my name' and 'my married name'.

Hopefully the tradition of women changing their name to match men's will disappear soon anyway and we won't have to worry about any of this Smile

I completely agree that language is important @smartiesneberhadtheanswer

By the way, what does "neber" mean?

Pigsinspaaace · 10/08/2023 16:39

You do you, mate @GCWorkNightmare Its something you feel strongly about, then follow your conscience.

I won't be drumming a name up out of my backside to suit your zealouty agenda, thanks, so right back at you ding ding ding

yawns

MadisonAvenue · 10/08/2023 16:41

Yes, it’s fine. I was in that situation and asked a friend who worked on check in at Heathrow.

CurlewKate · 10/08/2023 16:49

"What would you call it?"

Personally, I'd call it "your name."

JessicaBrassica · 10/08/2023 16:53

I travel in my name despite being married for over 20 yrs although my passport has both surnames in it.

I changed my medical records to my married name when the kids were born.
During covid I couldn't do online check in because the computer couldn't correlate my maiden name passport and ticket with my married name COVID pass.
It was annoying (particularly to the people I was traveling with) but not an issue when there was a person on the desk.

Im99912 · 10/08/2023 16:54

Been married 24 years next week
passport ( renewed 3 times )
still in my maiden name
in fact my driving licence and bank accounts are all in my maiden name 😂😂

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