Holiday without kids

[Yummymummy456]

I was surprised by my DH to a holiday abroad next year, for 5 nights. My DSs will be 4.5 and 1.5 by the time the holiday comes round. They are going to be staying with my parents.

I am trying my best to look forward to it but I really don’t want to leave my kids. I hate leaving them, my eldest has had lots of sleepovers but I’ve always just been down the road at home, we’ve never been for a night away from home, and my youngest is still BF so won’t be going on a sleep over till after he’s one.

I just hate the thought of not being able to get back to them in an emergency and I will miss them so much. My DH is so kind and thoughtful but just hadn’t thought of what I would be like leaving the kids. He has said for me to see how I feel nearer to the time, and that we won’t go if I’m not happy to but I feel so bad and ungrateful! I might never get a surprise like this again!

Am I being silly or is there other mums out there who feel like I do? What would you do?

I'd be furious if DH did that without asking. It's booked now so I guess it's a done deal.
Hopefully you'll feel better about it nearer the time and once you are no longer BFing.

I wouldn’t have wanted to go abroad without my kids when they were that age. But the holiday is brought now, though I’d be pretty mad at DH for not consulting me before booking. I guess I’d feel like you really.

Tbh I find it really bizarre that someone would be so reluctant to leave their kids to have a holiday with their DH when the kids are safely staying with family. I am much older than you and I know a lot of relationships that broke down because the parents just grew apart, mums getting so involved with their kids at the expense of their relationship with their partner didn’t help. Maintaining your adult relationship is so important. DH and I had regular holidays without our children from when our eldest was 10 months old. We now have three happy, well adjusted adult kids and a strong 30 year marriage, we are leaving for a month overseas tomorrow while our two youngest stay home attending Uni and taking care of the dog.