Help. I booked the same holiday as my friend

[smyrie]

A good friend of mine has a new boyfriend. She wanted a romantic Greek island destination. I recommended an island to her. Forgot all about it.

Recently found out I had a week off work. Booked flights and accommodation on the same small Greek island.... turns out they are going to be there the same week we are there!! It's a small island, not a package holiday destination as you need to get a ferry there.

Do I tell them? Or just hope I don't bump into them

She might be bored of the new boyfriend after a few days and be glad to see you!

If you are not at the same hotel I don’t see the issue - tell her and say don’t worry I won’t cramp your style. She can either say thanks or let’s meet for dinner one night.

If you're hoping you won't bump into them, just say you're going at the same time but want your own space. You could always meet up for lunch one day. You might even enjoy it! And if you don't want to do that, or do it and don't enjoy it, why bother with this friendship?

Have a lovely holiday!

I'd say it as if you run into each other it'll look weird. Just text her "of crap, only remembered you'd booked X after we booked ourselves. Don't worry, we won't invade your holiday! Won't take offence if you ignore us completely, we can catch up at home. X"

I think you have to tell them otherwise it will just look really weird if you just bump into them!
Just tell them that you did not realise you had booked the same week and you are not expecting them to meet up with you unless it is something they want to do.

When you found out was the time to tell her surely?

Are you in the same hotel/resort?

Haven't read your post but many years ago sister of a friends boss booked same holiday destination. Very embarrassing all around.
Boss said to totally ignore her etc. it worked out fine. Fingers crossed for you. Let your friend contact you if they fancy a treat some evening as your guest.

@Ilovelurchers I think the fact OP is posting here has posters raising eyebrows. If that's the case that no dates were discussed she will tell her friend and hopefully they will just laugh about it.

This. It's a fuss about nothing I think.

Haven't read your post but many years ago sister of a friends boss booked same holiday destination. Very embarrassing all around.

But why was it embarrassing? Perhaps I'm the odd one but I really don't understand. It wasn't even the boss. 😁

I don't see what the problem is

Just tell her and say you know she's on a romantic holiday so you probably won't see each other but if she gets fed up, bored or falls out with BF this is where you're staying

Surely if you book somewhere your friend really loved and recommended you wouldn’t be upset if they booked to go too though. You’d get that Op doing it “on purpose” is because she likes the island not because she’s stalking you.

I would just be honest. Hi friend funny story I have actually booked the same holiday on the same week. A wave or hello is fine, please don’t feel you have to wear a disguise every time you leave your room, I won’t follow you around and become a third wheel. But we are bound to bump into each other, the timing is only a coincidence.

You don’t want them to hide every time they see you wondering if you deliberately followed them there.

Poros and Paxos you'd be fine. They're small but not that small. Unless it's the same hotel.

How do you know, if she didn't tell you herself I'd keep quiet until you're at the same gate for boarding the flight....😂😂 hope that's not the case!!

If you booked your holiday after you knew she had followed your recommendation (and when she was going) then you're a numpty. Tell her and laugh about it and leave it up to her if she wants to make contact while you are away

Do you not want to bump into them because you don't want to disturb their holiday or because you dont particularly like them/want them to disturb your holiday?

Whichever one it is requires totally different responses. If it's the first one I'd mention it to your friend but also make them aware that you know it's a romantic getaway and you will not interrupt it at all.

If it's the latter then I wouldn't mention it to them. I'd just mention it to your partner and go about your holiday as you normally would. The likelihood of bumping into them is quite small however if you do then you can just say, hey and I know you're having a romantic getaway too (emphasis on the 'too' so that your friend doesn't try to interrupt your holiday) and say you wanted to make sure to give them space so they can enjoy their time together which is a sweet and caring way to approach it.

Have a beautiful holiday!

If you have to take a flight and a ferry just go to a different island! There are so many Greek islands pick another one.

Sounds like people want to make a lot of drama out of nothing.

Even a very small island is likely to have several thousand people spread around a few different villages/towns - there is room for everyone!

If you do bump into each other you say hi and then get on with enjoying your holiday. What on earth is there to be embarrassed about? No one is planning to set up a towel next to them and stare at them having a snog. No one is planning to choose a table next them at dinner to eavesdrop their conversation. its a non-issue.