Holiday without toddler

[Meganruth]

Hello! My husband & I have been gifted an all inclusive cruise for 10 days. We tried to add on our 14 month old daughter as we don’t like being away from her (we have never left her before overnight) but the booking for infants was full as it’s so close.

We have very reliable childcare with grandparents who she sees on a weekly basis as they mind her when I work. She trusts this person & usually waves bye to me when dropping off so doesn’t seem to have separation issues.

I would love to go as my husband & I would love time just us and where thinking of a mini break anyway.

my question is should I go? I feel guilty for leaving her to go on a holiday.

what would you do? Would love people who have had experience to answer as that would be valuable! Was it okay leaving for a week+?

We had a similar dilemma but we decided to do for it. We left our three children at their grandparents for ten days slightly older than your daughter aged 3 7 and 10. We had an amazing time and still talk about it over
20 years later and the children were fine xx

I don't know if I would, ten days is a lot for a 14mo

How far away are you and how quickly could you get back in an emergency? If your daughter was sick in hospital for example?

That would be the deal breaker for me.

10 days is a lot at that age anyway, but if I couldn’t get back to my toddler within 12 hour window for example, then I wouldn’t be going.

I'd go for it. Probably easier at this age than later.

10 days is a long time for a 14 month old to be left if she's never been away from you overnight. She won't understand where you've gone.
Obviously she'll survive if you do go but it's not the same as being left for a few hours during the day. Can't you do a bit of pleading with the cruise company?

I would not leave a 14mo old for so long. she won't understand that you are coming back.

i'd either beg the cruise company to fit her in or cancel. the cruise won't be fun if you are spending all your time worrying about her.

It’s personal choice.
I probably wouldn’t do it but equally I wouldn’t consider myself a better parent than anyone who did

Well op, did ye go on the cruise and how did it work out for you?

I think it really depends a lot on how her grandparents feel about minding her for 10 straight days. I don't think I could have asked my parents to do that when mine was 14 months old but then he was still quite hit and miss with sleep at that age.

I'd also be concerned about getting home in a hurry if you needed to, like if it was on sea days or whatever. I wouldn't write off the idea but just something to think about.

It's really a shame the cruise can't add her, she'll just be in your room with you anyway and taking up no space.

Edit: Nevermind, I see now that it's just an old thread that's been bumped up.