Break without kids

[Jodie210886]

Ok so I have 3 children 18,14 and 12. I split from their dad 2 years ago and they have very little contact with him (once every 4/5 months). I plan on booking a 4 day trip for just myself to Europe. My neighbour will be watching over them and my 18 year old will be home. My workmates will also be available to help them if needed. They will see me me on day 1 and 4 of the break due to flight times. Of course I will make sure they have food, stuff for emergencies etc. My ex is now telling me I’m selfish and wrong for taking this break. What do you guys think.

I wouldn’t say selfish and wrong but can he help out then? I can’t figure out whether age wise they’re ready or not- it’s a difficult one!!

The don’t want to stay with him. My kids stay alone while I work. They are capable of making themselves something to eat (air fryer or microwave). I did talk to them about the trip and they are all ok with it and actually encourage it.

The 18 year old is an adult, if the other two are sensible and happy then go for it - mine are younger, so I have to get my parents in (they also don't want to stay with their dad), but some time away is so refreshing, not selfish at all.

18 years old is absolutely fine.

However it's quite a lot of responsibility for him to take care of his siblings.

Do you think he's ready? X