Feeling really down about my weight bikinis and holiday

[mummyp1310]

So long one so bear with me. We are going on holiday in 2 weeks to Majorca, I have always worn bikinis on holidays and felt great, however this year I am carrying a lot of excess weight, I'm usually 11.5 stone, I'm quite tall and have a big frame so can carry it well, this year I'm a kick in the ass off on 13 stone and a size 14, really regretting the bikini situation now, I don't think it helps that my husband used to be massive (22 stone) but lost weight a couple of years ago and now is only marginally heavier than me (a few pounds at most) 😞, just can't shed the thought that I will be talked about and laughed at behind my back. I bought a Brazilian bikini, hubby loves it on, but just can't help the thought that he is saying it just to make me happy!

Literally nobody else cares what you look like in the beach.

I don't think even the most vacuous of people will be laughing at a size 14. I think you have built your size up in your head to be bigger than reality. Nobody minds what other people look like in their swimwear. They will probably all be feeling self conscious themselves.

Size 14 is normal. Don't waste your precious holiday worrying about this.

Do you like the bikini? If so, wear it.

I'm a size 14 and always wear a bikini on holiday. For context I need to lose about 2 stone to be happy with my weight as I'm shorter than you.

But I will literally know no-one on holiday except my family who already know what I look like!

I don't care what anyone else thinks, I'll never see them again. If they choose to spend their holiday discussing my weight or how I look in a bikini (unlikely) then they must lead a very dull life.

Plus there are always people of all shapes and sizes anyway, all rocking their bikinis and having a great time.

Wear it, in the nicest possible way- nobody will care at all! I'm 5"10 and size 18 and wear bikinis. Last year I was size 22 and even then nobody said a word. If they did I didn't hear them and it doesn't matter anyway!

There will be massive women in bikinis. Older women with crinkly skin and pot bellies, knarly old men with grey chest hair. Bugger all they can do about looking old on the beach.
I’m in France home of thin, toned women and there’s still fat people for every skinny stunner. No one is policing you except you.

You have three options: change your body, accept your body, cover up your body.

Please do not waste your life thinking anyone else cares about your body.

Your DH probably just wants to go away and have a great holiday with you.

Once you get there you won't care. You will realise there are all shapes and actually you will pay no notice to anyone else and neither will they. Sounds like you didn't ditch your dh at 22 stone..he is hardly going to pass comment on you now. And no head down. You have a gorgeous height so head up and enjoy your holidays. Lots of walking always gives me a feel good factor on holidays too. And wear any bikini you want.

At 13 stone i always wore bikinis on the beach. I always bought pretty ones with a halter neck & underwired bra size cups for support plus bottoms with fairly good coverage (although you don't have to).

I like Figleaves at Simply Be & they often have items in the sale.

I always took a short kaftan (Accessorize do nice ones) or a long tshirt & little beach shorts for walking up to a beach bar although many people don't bother.

If you like the bikini then wear it, as others have said people really are not scrutinising others bodies on holiday. Having said that, I just don’t feel comfortable in a bikini; a nice bright swimsuit makes me happier, so that’s what I wear! Life is too short to feel uncomfortable.

You’re a size 14 and tall, I think most people will think you look great if they think anything at all. But I do understand the feeling of being over your normal/happy weight and feeling self conscious. For me though, I remind myself it would be sad to miss out on the beach fun/swimming / beautiful bikini wearing by being covered up and awkward. One time I was on holiday with a friend and she wouldn’t wear a cossie and go in the sea because she felt fat - I totally defend her right not to undress and it’s her choice and I didn’t pressure her, but it was hot, and being in the sea was so nice, and no one would have cared (i’m not exactly a supermodel myself) and I just thought you’re missing out! Life is for enjoying what you can and jumping in the sea IMO. Anyway I hope you have a fab holiday and wear the bikini 👙

You could try low carb of you want to lose a couple of pounds/feel less bloated.Im doing this before my holiday

Honestly, nobody cares especially in Spain. Very large ladies wear bikinis. You may be unhappy with your weight but just put on the sun tan lotion and flaunt it.

Have you checked out society lately? Stop worrying.

Will you be talking about me and laughing at me one the beach, 5 ft 2 and a size 18? Because I look ‘fat’ in a swimsuit? If no, then why are you worried about what you look like as a size 14?
I know what it’s like to feel self conscious and worried about baring all in a swimsuit but actually when you get on holiday you realise there are all shapes and sizes and ages and no one really notices what other people look like as you are too busy with a book, watching kids in the pool, wondering whether to have chips and a cocktail for lunch etc etc
I am at the who cares stage of life and as long as I have some fake tan on my very pale legs, I don’t really care !
have a lovely holiday and stop worrying

As my mum used to say, you’ll be surprised how little other people care. They care about themselves!

Crack on.

For balance OP I wear a cover up on the beach (skin condition) and do feel a bit self conscious amongst the bikinis!

I'm 15½ stone at 5' 6" and wear a bikini on holiday. I dont care what people think tbh. I think as I get older I care even less if people are judging me

Please don't worry, you will look great.

I am a hourglass and can't find any swimsuit I fit with HH bra size so I wear a bikini even with my size 16. I accepted a couple of years. ago that DH knows how I look and he likes me, DD is not bothered and these are the only people. who should care.

There were always lots of different sizes, ages and body shapes at the pool and beach and nobody looks twice.

Just remember that there is no harsher critic of you than yourself.
I´m a size 14 and 5 f 10. I wear bikinis. Was more toned as was doing yoga and have stopped so not toned at all. Really, no one is worrying except you.
Look around when you are there, all sizes and shapes. And you are pretty average.

Most women are so hung up on how they look in a bikini that they're oblivious to how others look. I know I am. But you'll have paid good money and are looking forward to your holiday, so don't let your perseption of how you look spoil it.
I always think the 1st day of baring all is the worst, so wear one your really happy with then.
Have a great time, and when you get home, don't wish you'd relaxed more, relax while you're there and make the most of the break.

Do you laugh and talk about the non-supermodel women on the beach wearing bikinis? Do you stare or point at them? Of course you don’t; you don’t even notice them. There is nothing wrong with you. Nobody will even notice you - you’ll be on a beach full of lumpy bumpy people of all shapes and sizes. If anyone did laugh and talk about you, well it says much more about them that it ever would about you.

Most people will be more worried about how they look to really notice how you look. Spotlight effect.

Relax! I'm a size 14, 40 something years old and still go topless at the beach.