Can’t decide on holiday

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Hi everyone,

Just looking for some advice please. Just to
give a bit of background, my Husband and I haven’t been abroad since our honeymoon 9 years ago. We have been looking to move house for a few years now but can’t find what we want in the area we want it. Given the current market, last year, we said we would put the house hunting on hold and go abroad this year (2023) also taking into account that when we do eventually move we are unlikely to be able to afford a holiday for a good while.

Cut to current day and we decided we wanted to go back to the same Greek island we went for our honeymoon. We have finally found some lovely accommodation but now my Husband is saying he is concerned about how much we would be spending (£6k). He hasn’t said “No” but now he’s not sure. We have had a horrible few years (my Mum and our dog died in 2020) and we were just finally really looking forward to something and I feel really disappointed. Don’t get me wrong I realise £6k is a lot of money and we don’t have it all right now but if we are sensible we could afford it but my thoughts are we have had an awful few years and it’s probably going to be a very long time before get the opportunity to do this again.

Do I push it with my Husband and try to talk him around or just leave it and accept we are not going? Any advice would be really helpful.
Please be nice though, I am still really in the thick of grief and don’t need any judgemental or nasty comments, thank you!!

6k is a lot to spend on a holiday for 2 people to Greece. Can you not compromise and book something more affordable. We've been to Greek islands as a family of 3 several times and never paid over 2.5k for all inclusive in peak summer.

Compromise, find a cheaper holiday. Plenty of lovely places out there which would cost a lot less than six grand, especially for two people.

6k is a lot of money if you’re planning to move soon. You say ‘if we’re careful’, which I assume means you’ll have to watch your pennies a little to afford the holiday. Choose a different time of the year, or another location.

I definitely think you're entitled to a holiday and should absolutely book something but £6k does seem a lot for a European holiday for 2 when things are tight for you financially so I can see your DH's point of view, could you compromise a little e.g. by changing time of year, as you don't have DC can you go in September (unless you're teachers of course!), weather should still be nice but flights and accommodation a lot cheaper? Or can you stay in an AirBnB or cheaper accommodation, or go for 10 days instead of 2 weeks or something?

I'd definitely book a holiday but I wouldn't personally spend £6k on going to Greece! That's a lot of money for a short haul trip, even if it's all inclusive in very nice accommodation.

You definitely deserve a holiday but you can absolutely get something amazing for less than £6k, which would be the better option.
Do you have specific dates you are tied to or any odd criteria? I'd be happy to look for something for you!

If I spent £6k on a holiday I would expect a two centre in Malaysia or Thailand with private pool in top hotel
(Actually it was less than £6k)

Would I fuck be spending £6k to go to Greece

You so do deserve a break OP. Would he agree to a holiday in principle. Could you work out costing/budget together? I am so very sorry for your losses. 💐

I think £6K, 2 person holidays to Greece are really only for people who have quite a lot of money sloshing around,

I'd do one of 2 things, make your £6K go further, Thailand, Mexico, Caribbean, something like that. Or otherwise find something (much) cheaper in the place you want to go in Greece.

Could you compromise and spend up to 3k, if this is your first holiday abroad fir nine years im
sure anywhere would be good?

The price of holidays has gone up an awful lot recently!!! I personally don’t have 6K to spend on a holiday. I am trying to get a 7 night holiday for three of us (as teenager is now an adult for 2K and its not easy but we are also tied to quite specific dates). But if I did I would want butler and maid service and something more than Greece for 6K.

I would definitely compromise but compromise on budget you could go to many nice places for 3K op then your both still getting a nice holiday without blowing the budget out of the water.

£6k for a holiday to Greece?! 😳 Me and my partner went to Greece last year for 2 weeks for £2k including spending money

Definitely compromise. You don’t need to spend anywhere near £6k for two people in Greece to have a luxury break! 😳😳😳

Yes, as above do Greece, but much cheaper.

It's the obvious answer.

£6k for a fortnight is nearly £450 a day. That's a lot of money.