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How much spending money

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Summersoul · 27/03/2023 19:34

So my DD1 16 is going to Spain with her friends after her exams (with her friends parents)
She is staying at the family home and has paid for her own flights. How much spending money would be enough for 1 week to cover everything? Hard to know how much they will eat out etc but I'm guessing a fair bit.
TIA

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Screwedupworld · 27/03/2023 21:10

I usually go for 65- 80 a day for myself so maybe like 400-500.

lljkk · 27/03/2023 21:56

100 euros and a debit card. The parents will treat them to nearly all food, ime.

HagWithAtt · 27/03/2023 22:17

Yes, I'd want her to have enough to cover her food and drinks every day, and maybe enough to pay for dinner for everyone / similar too. So, I'd be more at the €500 end I think.

reluctantbrit · 28/03/2023 07:48

I would say €100/day plus extra to treat the family for a meal out as a thank you.

I would also transfer some money to the family to cover food at the house, maybe €100-150 for breakfast during the week.

PizzaPastaWine · 28/03/2023 08:27

I would transfer £300 to the parents beforehand for food and give DD €200 for other spends.

NorthernDrizzle · 28/03/2023 08:29

PizzaPastaWine · 28/03/2023 08:27

I would transfer £300 to the parents beforehand for food and give DD €200 for other spends.

Why?

That is really rude. They invited her so transferring money isnt the done thing.

The food isn't a treat-it is basic part of inviting a child to join you on holiday (or a guest to your house) You feed them .

TrainersAltonTowersWontKill · 28/03/2023 08:31

"I would say €100/day plus extra to treat the family for a meal out as a thank you."

Only on MN is a 16 year old taking a family out to dinner in Spain and taking care of the bill 😅

lljkk · 28/03/2023 08:39

Let us know what happens. my guess is she'll come back with every penny you send her with. They would let her buy souvenirs or a street food snack, but nothing else.

PizzaPastaWine · 28/03/2023 08:50

NorthernDrizzle · 28/03/2023 08:29

Why?

That is really rude. They invited her so transferring money isnt the done thing.

The food isn't a treat-it is basic part of inviting a child to join you on holiday (or a guest to your house) You feed them .

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I think it's far more rude to expect the family to cover the food. I'd imagine there will be meals out whilst they are away so I would want to cover them.

I'd transfer to the money beforehand so this would avoid the feeling of my DD not paying her way (on both sides) throughout the duration of the holiday.

maddy68 · 28/03/2023 09:26

Of course you should give the parents some money to help with her costs!

Also I reckon 50 a day.
Spain is cheap but she's on holiday and mocktails don't come cheap
I expect they will be eating out

Comii9 · 28/03/2023 09:30

maddy68 · 28/03/2023 09:26

Of course you should give the parents some money to help with her costs!

Also I reckon 50 a day.
Spain is cheap but she's on holiday and mocktails don't come cheap
I expect they will be eating out

I'm surprised so many invite other people's DC on holiday and expect money.

I'm all for paying my way in life. But I do find it a bit odd and that nobody ever seems to know what to pay or not.

TrainersAltonTowersWontKill · 28/03/2023 09:32

"Mocktails don't come cheap" 🤣👍

NorthernDrizzle · 28/03/2023 09:34

PizzaPastaWine · 28/03/2023 08:50

I think it's far more rude to expect the family to cover the food. I'd imagine there will be meals out whilst they are away so I would want to cover them.

I'd transfer to the money beforehand so this would avoid the feeling of my DD not paying her way (on both sides) throughout the duration of the holiday.

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It really isnt

You invite a 7 year old round on a plyadte- do you expect them to bring their own food? or pop to the shop?

You take a 10 year old to the pub for lunch with yours. Do you expect them to whip out their go Henry card and pay?

It is the same. You invite a child (16) you pay

Stugs · 28/03/2023 09:34

TrainersAltonTowersWontKill · 28/03/2023 08:31

"I would say €100/day plus extra to treat the family for a meal out as a thank you."

Only on MN is a 16 year old taking a family out to dinner in Spain and taking care of the bill 😅

Dd18 did this last summer - stayed with a generous family friend but wanted to be able to offer dinner out one evening.

maddy68 · 28/03/2023 10:09

Comii9 · 28/03/2023 09:30

I'm surprised so many invite other people's DC on holiday and expect money.

I'm all for paying my way in life. But I do find it a bit odd and that nobody ever seems to know what to pay or not.

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I would expect to give a contribution as it's basic manners ... Why should another family fully endure the costs of my child?

Yoyooo · 28/03/2023 10:18

TrainersAltonTowersWontKill · 28/03/2023 09:32

"Mocktails don't come cheap" 🤣👍

Especially as she will be having extra vodka with the 'mocktails' 😂

NorthernDrizzle · 28/03/2023 10:20

maddy68 · 28/03/2023 10:09

I would expect to give a contribution as it's basic manners ... Why should another family fully endure the costs of my child?

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because they invited them? basic manners

MKD1 · 28/03/2023 10:27

I'd talk to the parents directly first as that would be the kindest thing to do and say you'd like to give them some money towards the holiday. They may just say no thank you, but you can give what you like to you DD for anything extra she would like to buy.

Then decide how much to send your DD with. It's the thought that counts and they may appreciate you offering something even if they won't accept it.

Comii9 · 28/03/2023 10:31

@maddy68 I'm not suggesting that OP should not send her child with any money. I think you have totally misunderstood what I have put.

I am saying that the expectation on BOTH sides isn't always unclear on these threads. Personally I wouldn't invite anybody DC on holiday for a start BUT if I did I would mention to the parents and have a chat beforehand about the full costs involved.

PizzaPastaWine · 28/03/2023 10:35

NorthernDrizzle · 28/03/2023 09:34

It really isnt

You invite a 7 year old round on a plyadte- do you expect them to bring their own food? or pop to the shop?

You take a 10 year old to the pub for lunch with yours. Do you expect them to whip out their go Henry card and pay?

It is the same. You invite a child (16) you pay

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I think a playdate for a 7 year old or odd pub lunch is different.

A week with a 16 year old that will be eating like an adult and drinking mocktails - which as the other poster rightly pointed out they don't come cheap - shouldn't be absorbed by the other family.

To me its just courtesy as the parents are giving my child a fantastic trip and I wouldn't be feeding them for that week.

Different folks, different strokes I guess.

Nap1983 · 28/03/2023 10:36

I would offer money to cover food to parents, more for meals out than food in house and give to them directly I think it’s akward for kids to offer and adults to take. ( I’ve had some take and some not for my DD) I would give her spending money separately, whatever you deem suitable I reckon somewhere between 50-100 euros per day

fruitbrewhaha · 28/03/2023 11:54

100 euros a day? Where is Spain is she holidaying? I can't imagine her spending 100 euros every day. For reference we go self catering in Greece in the summer and I reckon spend not much more than £100 a day and we eat out every night. It's about 60/80 euros for four people for dinner and 30/40 for lunch. We often make sandwiches at the beach etc.

She'll need money for ice creams souvenirs and drinks. Give her enough to buy lunch or dinner one day. Also perhaps she can pay for any activities ie entrance to a water park or theme park, banana boat, beach inflatable park, SUP hire. To be sure you can ask the parents.

TrainersAltonTowersWontKill · 28/03/2023 11:59

Why's everyone drinking fucking mocktails? That's what I want to know 🤣

reluctantbrit · 28/03/2023 17:29

TrainersAltonTowersWontKill · 28/03/2023 08:31

"I would say €100/day plus extra to treat the family for a meal out as a thank you."

Only on MN is a 16 year old taking a family out to dinner in Spain and taking care of the bill 😅

Why? DD (15) was invited by a friend to Thorpe Park last Halloween, the tickets were really expensive. She tried to pay for their dinner (the mum was faster getting her phone out to pay) as a thank you. In Summer DD paid for ice cream for her friend, the mum and a sibling when they were away for a full day.

It's common courtsey to invite someone, it doesn't have to be a full 3-course-meal, could also be a snack for lunch or some drinks.

Regarding giving money for food - it all depends. If I invite DD's friend on a holiday I would pay for all meals, drinks and snacks for all. But that's me. If DD would be invited for a whole week I definitely would offer money to the parents.

lljkk · 28/03/2023 18:45

DD has bagged up to 7 days of summer holiday with a small group (n=up to 6?) of friends staying with someone's parents in France, each of last 3 summers.

DD pays train fare to airport, I pay for airfare.

The group barely go out anywhere to spend money. The parents arrange transport, maybe a yacht outing. The parents buy them booze & piles of food to eat at home/on yacht. The "kids" sneak around into each other's beds at night. I will be curious to hear what happens in OP's situation.

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