My parents want to take my 16mo on holiday

[Stressedmu]

My mum and dad have offered to take my DS on holiday next April when he will be 16mo, he’s currently only 9mo and has never been away from me for more than a night at a time, I don’t know how I will feel by then but not sure what to do, I know my parents will look after him and know him as well as I do.

i don’t want to hold him back from new experiences but I think I will just miss him too much😭 I’ve got him at my hip 24/7 and could go a break on the one hand but I feel as if the full time I will be upset

I can’t go as I’m at uni doing nursing and will be on placement at this time so they would usually help with childcare too so I don’t know if they need to take him for childcare purposes as well, looking for a bit of advice

*Actually no, not great.
I don't think I could wave off my dc at that age.
5-6 years old then I'd be ok with it.

Its to Spain for a week, he has been away twice already with me and his dad, he is brilliant with them for a day whilst I’m at work, even if I could take it off placement I don’t have the funds to be able to afford a holiday

Also whilst I’m on placement me and his dad could work opposite shifts but I don’t know until closer to the time if I’ll be 3 long days a week or 5 8-4 shifts so this again isn’t very helpful🤦🏻‍♀️

No, absolutely not. It is too far, too long and at too young an age.

Just trust your instincts and say no thank you.

Practically it is quite a thing to take a baby abroad because if any medical care is required, they are on their own in a foreign country.

And it's a no from me too.

I'm all for parents getting time out and taking every opportunity they can grasp for a break, but that's too great a distance for too long.

A 16 month old doesn't need a conventional holiday to enjoy a change of scenery, but they also like familiarity.

Ridiculous idea. They just want to play at being parents again. At that age he’ll have major separation anxiety and be way too busy freaking out abiut why mum has abandoned him to enjoy it. Seriously he will be very upset, please don’t put him through that just to humour demanding grandparents.

They can take him on holiday when he’s much much older. Like eight.

Imagine if there was another lockdown and you got stuck in a different country from your baby 😱

First child was a NO. Second child, hell yes!

That would be an emphatic NO from me.

This is a ridiculous idea. At 16 months? Absolutely no way, and I say this as a parent whose children travelled extensively with their grandparents, but definitely not that young.

No, he won’t remember it so it entirely for your parents benefit and I would be questioning why they don’t have their grandchild’s best interests at heart.

At that age both my children would have been distraught to spend that much time away from me. As others have said, listen to your instincts here, they serve to protect your child's best interests.

Rather than seeing it as your parents taking your child away from you a long distance away on a holiday to play happy families as other PP’s are suggesting. Is it more the case that they know you would rely on them for childcare while you are on a placement, they don’t want to let you down but still want to go away for a break, so have offered to take him with them? So if you don’t want them to take him on holiday with them just say no thanks and you’ll have to organise other childcare while they are away.

It's a daft idea.

Tell them thanks but no.

Sounds to me like this is it. Not a "daft" or "ridiculous" idea, and not playing at being parents again, just wanting a holiday and not wanting the OP to be stuck for childcare