Would you go abroad with a baby and 4 year old alone?

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I’m due to go on holiday to Greece next week and my partner can’t go anymore. If we wanted to change the holiday dates it would cost £150 each and it’s too expensive. Would you go alone with a four year old a six month old to Greece complete by yourself? Or should I just cancel and lose all money?
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Need more info! Hotel? Self catering?

It’s an all inclusive holiday and a family friendly hotel from what I’ve read about it

Can you change the name free of charge and take someone else in his place?

In those circumstances, yes, I definitely would.

Just re-adjust your expectations and see it as a week off the cooking and cleaning and don’t try and make it into anything too action packed. The kids will be happy playing on the beach all day, every day.

Yes. What on earth do you think single parents do

Just a few things to think about...

Swimming pools. Both kids of an age where they potentially need a lot of help in water. Is there a knee deep maximum pool for example, where 4yo can have freedom?

Airport. Is your 4yo a bolter or likely to follow the very strict instruction of "walk through this gate and then stop" (I travelled alone with mine from 2&4, I trained eldest to do this then grb her sisters hand as she followed her)

Most of the stuff is just stuff you do anyway when out and about with a baby and child. It won be a relaxing holiday though!

@SamillaW dont talk down to me! I was simply asking a question of whether others would go alone as my daughter is very young so wouldn’t have planned this holiday if I knew I was going alone.

I wouldn’t be keen as I would have been so stressed out.
i’d be trying hard to find someone else to come though- what about your dm?

The money on the holiday is spent, I assume, and not refundable if you just don't go? So you either spend another £300 to have your family holiday or you go with the DC on your own. Is it worth £300 to have DH there? That's what it boils down to.

Would your four year old be ok using a kids club for a few hours?

I would if you can do that so you get a break with just the baby

I think you'd be mad to cancel and lose all that money. Go, you'll enjoy it even if it's stressful at times. You might chat to people you wouldn't otherwise if DH was there. You'll be so proud of yourself if you do it.

No, I'd leave the baby with your partner and go with your 4 year old.

Or take your mum.

@Frazzled2207 I’ve asked my mum but unfortunately she just can’t get the time off work and there isn’t anybody else I could ask x

I’d go, no point losing all the money. Not going to be the same but it’s all inclusive so at least everything you need is there and don’t need to worry about going anywhere.

I'd go for sure. If it was a remote cottage in the middle of nowhere I might not, but a family friendly hotel would be fine.

i don’t think I would, I’d find it too stressful. Maybe as a PP said, could you leave baby with partner and just go with your 4 year old?

Depends what you you prefer to do. Some people would enjoy, some wouldn't. I wouldn't go myself.

The first thing that I think of is what if you need the toilet? 😅

Tough one OP. I think I'd personally find it too stressful although I like the idea of PP of leaving baby at home if you can? One of my friends did that when their baby was 6 months and enjoyed a hol with 3 year old. Baby won't remember not going of course.

No. Sounds like a nightmare tbh. I don’t even know how I’d manage safely supervising 2 kids that young in the pool tbh. And even small stuff like how you’d manage the buffet (presuming that’s how the food is done) it and carrying plates when 2 kids have to go with you every time you go up. And no adult conversation all week. I’d rather lose the money, it would be far more enjoyable to stay at home.

Yeah go on, as long as you plan well you'll have a lovely time. It will be a good to have quality time with your 4 year old and show them what an important big sister/brother they are in helping you with the holiday. They'll love it and learn so much! They'll come back feeling all independent and responsible.

I'd personally find that too stressful.

Would you like to go? Do you think you'd still enjoy it solely looking after two children? (Genuinely asking). I think I'd struggle knowing I didn't have that extra pair of hands when both kids were playing up/ on the plane to entertain and not being able to step outside for 30 minutes if I needed a break.

I would go. The Greeks adore children. I’ve stayed with my older kids in hotels on six Greek islands, and any nearby babies/toddlers had a flock of waiters bringing high chairs, cooing at them, chucking their chins, bringing warmed bottles for them etc. There was always a kids club with trained nannies, and a baby listening service if you wanted to go to the bar while they were asleep in the evening, and a toddlers pool a few inches deep for paddling.
Just ask the staff for any help you need. And at the airport, keep the 4 year old on a rein with a backpack if you can’t trust them not to run off. You will get priority boarding anyway with a baby. Obviously it will be a bit more of a hassle than going with DH, but it’s perfectly doable. Good luck, OP!

Yeah this might be the next best option if no adult able to take your dp’ place

the baby will not know what he’s missing and won’t remember either. You could have a nice time with a 4 yo!