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I want to go back to the same place hubby wants to try somewhere new

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greenbananas29 · 03/09/2022 13:43

So I'm creature of habit, we have been going back to the same place same hotel and even same room as it's the perfect location for the last 5 years.
Looking to book for next year and hubby decides it would be nice to try so where new.
This makes me anxious 😂 I hate the unknown and I love that I know what is nearby where we usually stay, it has everything we need so I think why change it when we know we will have a good holiday there?!
Hubby said maybe time for a change this next holiday just to see what's out there, and that we've exhausted the area around the hotel we normally stay at.
I can see his point but I'm apprehensive to book somewhere completely new and not know what we are going to get, and I feel like I would be comparing to our usual hotel!

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GrandSlamFinalee · 03/09/2022 15:32

I think you both need to compromise when it comes to holidays, and it sounds like he has done his fair amount of compromising over the past 5 years.

I would personally hate going to the same place twice. Never mind 5 times. But your apprehension is also valid.

How did you find the hotel you’re currently going to? How did you decide to book it? Can you go through the same process but in a different country / area? It might be a little better, it might be a little worse, but the world is huge and varied, it would be a shame to holiday in the same place forever, if at least one of you has the motivation to venture further out.

Otherwise - split the budget. You go back to the usual hotel, he can book somewhere new for himself. I adore travelling on my own, it’s much better than sharing it!

ChutneyVirgin · 03/09/2022 15:33

FIVE TIMES! How boring. Come on mate

CurlyhairedAssassin · 03/09/2022 15:47

Don’t you like to visit cultural sights? Natural wonders? If you go to exactly the same place for years on end, what do you go and SEE? I mean, I know some people like just sitting on a sunlounger all day every day on holiday but I personally would find that boring in the extreme. Maybe your DH wants to experience the world?

loudbatperson · 03/09/2022 15:50

Going the same place every year for 5 years would put me off going on holiday.

You have had it your way for 5 years, let your husband choose next year.

Cornflowerandchicory · 03/09/2022 15:53

Every year for five years?! Christ. Do you not want to see more of the world?

Let your husband choose where you go this time. Sounds like he's done a lot of compromising.

SellFridges · 03/09/2022 15:53

We regularly go back to the same apartment, or at least the same very small location. Every year in fact. Like you, we like that we know what is nearby etc.

that’s not our only holiday though, so I’d prefer variety if it was.

Mercurial123 · 03/09/2022 15:54

You managed to go somewhere new when you first visited so you can do it again. I'm with your husband.

Travel is about opening yourself up to new experiences. Have you been diagnosed with anxiety?

Anothernamechangeplease · 03/09/2022 15:54

I think you should take it in turns - you choose one year, he chooses the next. Sounds like the next one is his choice!

AvonCallingBarksdale · 03/09/2022 15:55

@greenbananas29 Come on!! There’s a whole world out there - live a little 😀. Or at least have a year off from your usual destination

CurlyhairedAssassin · 03/09/2022 15:56

Go somewhere else. Very different to what you usually choose so that you aren’t comparing it to your other holiday place, because it’s so different and can’t compare. It’ll give you a new lease of life.

and I say this as someone who used to go to Cornwall every year for years on end. Kids were getting to an age where they wanted to go walking and see interesting things. DO stuff. They were past the age of sandcastles on the beach etc. We tried Dorset instead and loved it. But be warned - you need to research thoroughly and don’t just pick places that you have heard of. So many people, for example, say they’ve been to Dorset and didn’t like it - too crowded, a bit kiss-me-quick etc Turns out they went to Bournemouth and the like. Stay a bit inland somewhere like that and there are beautiful villages and walks with no-one around. And history. And you can still drive to the coast to get your fix of seaside (and you don’t have to go to the crowded parts)

that’s just an example based on England but you can apply it to anywhere abroad. Do your research properly.

TeenDivided · 03/09/2022 15:58

Alternate. Go somewhere new next time, then the time after go back to your favourite haunt which will seem more special having not been there for a time.
(I like returning to favourite places too.)

CurlyhairedAssassin · 03/09/2022 16:04

I also used to turn my nose up at all inclusives. But we went to Tenerife one year and loved that. Wouldn’t go again for our only holiday cor many years cos we’ve been to Teide and the fishing villages we wanted to see. Went to the Dordogne, wondering if we’d miss being by the sea on holiday. We didn’t! Saved up and went on a US road trip this year . Now THAT is a holiday. Seeing something new all the time just gave me the travel bug again. I’d hate to have the same old routine every holiday, going to the same old familiar restaurant with the same old staff. I want to be filled with AWE, not a feeling of comfort like I’m putting on a familiar old jumper and my

if you are in good health and young, then why would you not want to try new places? There may be a time in the future where a different type of holiday would be too much to cope with. Live a little now, while you can.

Luredbyapomegranate · 03/09/2022 16:06

Your world will shrink and shrink and you will get more and more anxious if you carry on like this OP.

Go to your favourite place every three years and give yourself a chance to find new favourites in between. It will also have the side benefit of your husband not getting bored with life.

Topseyt123 · 03/09/2022 16:12

I agree with your husband. I would want a change after 5 years.

Book another lovely destination, or let him do it if you are confident he will do it properly. Think of somewhere you have both always been interested in visiting and have a chat about it. There must be places, surely. Research it together.

Broaden your horizons a bit. It doesn't have to mean that you will never go back to the place you have visited for 5 years ever again. You need to stop fixating on it though. Visit somewhere else and be open minded about it. You might even like it, why not?

I can fully understand your DH if he is feeling a bit curtailed and frustrated.

MichelleScarn · 03/09/2022 16:14

Same place would be annoying enough, never mind same room!

Ihatethenewlook · 03/09/2022 16:18

I couldn’t imagine being so disrespectful to my partner that I demanded my own way for five years straight with no consideration for his opinion. If it was a woman on here saying that not only is she not allowed to pick a holiday destination, ever, but she had to got to the same one year after year after year because her partner said so, he’d be called controlling. I’m actually a little hesitant at saying your partner should be able to pick for once, no doubt if it doesn’t live up to your normal expectations you’ll never let him hear the end of it, or let him go anywhere else ever again.

stayinghometoday · 03/09/2022 16:23

Where was it and what did you like about it? Maybe we can think of something new within your comfort level.

Aposterhasnoname · 03/09/2022 16:29

Research is your friend op. If the hotel you usually stay in is part of a chain, book another hotel from the same chain. Hit trip advisor and find good restaurants and bars nearby. Get on Google maps and work out where they are in relation to the hotel. Then get on street view and take a virtual walk round the area and see whats around. Easy.

Hapo · 03/09/2022 16:32

5 times even down to the same room? Come on now. It's perfectly understandable for him to want to see more.

Readinginthesun · 03/09/2022 16:37

5 years ? If you think that’s bad , a friend’s husband insists on going to the same resort, same apartment and eat at the same restaurants for over 20 years ! She doesn’t work so he insists it’s up to him to decide as he pays .
Compromise OP !

BringOnSummerHolidays · 03/09/2022 16:45

I can’t imagine going back to the same place twice.

Josette77 · 03/09/2022 16:48

Nope. It's your dh's turn. That would bore me completely.

ChicCroissant · 03/09/2022 17:07

Five times consecutively in exactly the same room is a lot. But your last sentence - about comparing any new place to your old holiday - does make it sound as if you've already made up your mind to hate the new place. So if you are going to do that, it might be time for separate holidays.

KangarooKenny · 03/09/2022 17:10

It’s time for somewhere new, and you’ve plenty of time to plan it. I always find the Tui site a good one, but I don’t book with them 😉

Catch21 · 03/09/2022 17:11

I'm with your husband. Trying new experiences is half the point of going on holiday!

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