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Partner can’t come on holiday, should I still go?

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Firstbaby1234 · 12/06/2022 08:42

we are due to fly to Spain tomorrow with our son who is 6 months old. My partner went to a wedding on Friday and broke his ankle so now he can’t fly. He has told me to still go and book my sister on. Should I still go?

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orangeisthenewpuce · 12/06/2022 08:44

Yes

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cherrypiepie · 12/06/2022 08:45

Yes he has even said so!

Take you sister and have fun

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Pepperama · 12/06/2022 08:46

Has he got folk who can help him get around etc? And is he genuinely ok with you going? If yes then yes, I’d go. If not then I’d stick around in solidarity

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SunnyLobelia · 12/06/2022 08:48

yes!! Bring him back lots of treats.

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HollowTalk · 12/06/2022 08:50

How mobile is he? Would he stay at your house or with a friend or family?

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Yodaisawally · 12/06/2022 08:53

Yes!

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Firstbaby1234 · 12/06/2022 09:01

There will be no one at our house but he said he would go and stay with his mum for the week. I think I just feel guilty as he can’t come.. he would be with his mum and brother at his mums. He isn’t very mobile at the minute he has his leg in a cast.

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BattenburgDonkey · 12/06/2022 09:04

If they’re happy to have him then go. No need to feel guilty, he gets waited on for the week and with no parent responsibilities either, he will be fine!

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m00rfarm · 12/06/2022 09:05

How did he break his ankle? Yea

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m00rfarm · 12/06/2022 09:05

Sorry about “yea”. Keeps appearing randomly!

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Cuckoo48 · 12/06/2022 09:07

I would consider it, if has given you his blessing and can manage alone at home.
Although it's pretty sad that he won't witness baby's first (?) holiday, first time on the beach etc.
if you have insurance surely you could cancel it and get your money back - could you reschedule it for later in the summer / early autumn? I think that's what I would do, if I could.

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Firstbaby1234 · 12/06/2022 09:11

He did it dancing believe it or not! We rang jet2 and they said we couldn’t cancel as he is technically still “fit to fly” but he wouldn’t enjoy the holiday as he couldn’t even walk on it! And we to move it we had to pay a £150 admin fee as it’s so close to the date we fly plus whatever extra the holiday is. I also go back to work in September and they have told him he is looking at 8-12 weeks before being able to put weight on his ankle

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FitFat · 12/06/2022 09:12

Go!!!!!

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TeeBee · 12/06/2022 09:23

Go! He's an adult.

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wheresmymojo · 12/06/2022 09:23

Definitely go!

The other alternative is you can rent a wheelchair at the destination that gets dropped off and picked up from the hotel (and get wheelchair at all the airports).

It can be done - I did it when I broke my foot the week before our 1st anniversary trip to NYC.

It will cost at least aa much as the admin fee to move the holiday though and probs won't be much fun (my DH does strongman training so wheeling me around in a basic wheelchair was okay for him but I wouldn't have fancied it the other way around, a lot of other countries including NYC don't have dropped curbs in cities for wheelchair users like we do!)

Also I think a foot is easier than an ankle(?) I could just about manage to get about a few steps in a hard boot thing they gave me to get a shower.

That being said Spain might be easier than the US due to EU laws on making accommodations for disabled people to be able to access places.

I would not want to be a disabled person in the US let's put it that way!

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bumpytrumpy · 12/06/2022 09:28

Definitely still go!

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Firstbaby1234 · 12/06/2022 09:28

He is ok with me going, the doctor did advise him not to fly as the pressure will make his foot and ankle swell and he would be in pain. If we didn’t go we would lose all the money

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Mindymomo · 12/06/2022 09:37

Yes go with your Sister, no it won’t be the holiday planned but it won’t be wasted either. If you really don’t want to go, do you have insurance that you can claim on, as your partner has been told he cannot fly, you should be able to claim money back from that.

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Igmum · 12/06/2022 10:03

Of course, go for it. Hope you have a nice time.

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WouldBeGood · 12/06/2022 10:06

Would your holiday insurance not cover it as he’s been told not to fly by the doctor?

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unsync · 12/06/2022 10:29

What did your insurers say? This must be a quite straightforward claim.

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ScottishBeeswax · 12/06/2022 10:34

the doctor did advise him not to fly as the pressure will make his foot and ankle swell and he would be in pain.

This is what you need to claim in the insurance. Declaration by his doctor that he is not fit to fly should mean the insurance pay out for cancellation. Did you tell them the Dr has said he cannot fly?

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Firstbaby1234 · 12/06/2022 15:08

We’ve decided I’m going with my sister and he’s going to stay with his mum!

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