Advice for not so single mum travel with DC

[Treesaa]

Hi everyone. I have a strange question to ask and would appreciate any helpful suggestions. My DH is unable to go on holiday with myself and DC. Changing dates would not help the situation as it is not all work related. I'm looking for other parents, preferably women, who are in the same situation as me but I do not know where to look. I cannot go on Gingerbread or other sites for single parents because I am not single. I have looked at single parents holidays but they do not suit. Most are swimming/skiing type of holidays which we don't want to do. Also I would like a holiday where I can plan my own activities without being restricted by a pre planned schedule. The reason why I would like to travel with another single parent is so that we can look out for each other as I am a bit scared of travelling solo with a 6 year old...I've never done it before. We can also keep each other company and chat if DCs are busy playing. As I said all helpful suggestions are welcome with thanks.

DH died when DD was 7. She's 18 in 2.weeks. we have travelled all over the world together without issue.

[quote Treesaa]@audweb
Thanks, I was very excited too and was looking forward to spending time with my daughter abroad. Then DH mentioned something along the lines of needing a man's presence to be safe and I started wondering if I'm being careless[/quote]
What a weird thing to say! Is he jealous you're going without him?

Why not book an easy All Inclusive with TUI or Jet2holidays. Flights transfers etc all included. You can stay as much as you like round the pool with the familiarity of meals on site, or go and explore, go on organised trips etc if you want?

It’s definitely not careless. I’m out here living life as a lone parent, I would never do anything with my kid if I needed a man. I’ve travelled as a lone woman as well perhaps we need to be more aware and considered sometimes, but if you’re just booking flights and a nice hotel somewhere don’t stress. Make it as easy as a possible - somewhere that transfers are included, and a hotel that has good reviews for families and go for it.

I’ve found lots of people at YHAs that are happy to team up for the next day, and split car hire or whatever.
At posh hotels a toy, eg small ball, will get other dc wanting to join in with your dc..

My husbands a farmer so isn’t ever available for summer holidays!! We’ve got a caravan tho and I take that to Norfolk for a week and then have several weekends away when the weathers nice - I have 4 kids age 10 down to 1 and haven’t ever had a problem being on my own!!!

So what you are saying is that all was fine til your lovely husband undermined your confidence?
Is he on board with you going ANYWHERE on holiday without him?

Sorry.. I just think its weird you immediately accepted his view when you were up for it previously!

Just to add the kids always make friends wherever we go!!

Thank you everyone for sharing stories of your solo adventures with DC. I feel much better and more positive now :)
@lollipopsandrainbows the drunk mum story made me laugh!
@Gardenista most of my friends have no children. The only one who does is dealing with a difficult situation and not in the mood for a holiday
@Northernsoullover I have been looking at hotels with kids clubs and I think DD will love them

@Treesaa after drunk mum incident I've always gone to hotels with entertainment so that I didn't have to go looking for entertainment at local bars. Ask for a room overlooking the pool, that way if the kids get tired you can still watch the entertainment with a wine, book, whatever without going to bed early.

I had a lovely holiday with my DS when he was 6 in Amsterdam. A very safe and friendly city. We went by Eurostar.