work weekends or work mornings??

[jaynel]

i really need some advice, at the mo i work every weekend, i do 7am-2pm one weekend then 2pm-10pm the next weekend but im fed up of it, i miss out on family time and i dont like it anymore. BUT ive been offered a 9-1pm mon-fri and i dont know what to do for the best, i have a 9 year old dd and a 2.5 son. my mum thinks i should stay doing weekends (she doesnt really think i should work at all, like she did) but my friends say the week day as i have the weekends free and i will have the afternoons with my ds. i know you cant decide for me but what are yr veiws? i love my kids to peices but i really dont think i want to work weekends anymore????

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I would work in the week. I have to work alternate Saturdays as part of my contract and I hate it.

You will still see your kids everyday after work and you will all have proper quality time together at the weekend as a family.

Plus, you will be a lot happier. Happy mum - happy family!

I would go for mornings-definitely.

a happy family is what we need at the mo, but i just feel so gulity.

I work 3 mornings a week and wouldn't change it for the world. I love our family weekends and would die without them. Also - DD has a good morning at nursery while I'm working and is asleep for most of it when I'm not. We have good quality 6 hour long afternoons plus an hour before we part company in the morning. All my friends are jealous of my work patterns!!

I'd go for wook days rather than weekends.

i do weekdays, but I guess it depends on childcare.

I'd have thought weekdays would be better for you (especially once ds is in school) but what will you do about school holidays?

Who has the children when you're at work now?

my dh has the kids at weekends but he'd prefer me to work in the week, but we will have problems in the holidays. im so confused

Hi, I work Thursday to Sunday shift work (I am a psychiatric nurse) and I only do this so that my mum can have my DD's on her off days and Dh has them at the weekend as he is 9-5 in the week so it means no nursery fees to pay.

I don't like working weekends as I don't spend a full weekend as a family unless I take annual leave so I would go for the mornings (although if like me you may miss out on unsociable hours rates of pay - but you may not be in such a job where this applies)

i will lose money as i also work unsociable hours so the pay is good and that is a bit of an issue but im just fed up of working weekends and missing out on family time. my main concern is my ds, his been so used to having me at home all the time, i dont kno how he would cope with me not being around in the mornings.

I'd go with weekdays too - I think having time with ALL the family together (ie you &dh) is important - I really miss it when I have to work weekends. Will your 2.5 yo go to nursery when he gets to 3? If so, he'd probably not miss you too much in term time, at least

Hi, I would say week days as well.

Like 3missyshohoho I am a psychiatric nurse (on maternity leave at present). If I could just do mornings I would, but I love my job and the hours come with the job I do and it's the same for a lot of us on this thread.

I work either 9-5 or 2-10, plus on calls at night. I do about 1 or 2 full week ends a month. I work 18.75 hours a week. It's hard on the whole family if you work week ends. Dh doesn't complain but in effect he works all week and then not much break from the dcs. I get stuff done before and after shifts. It's made me realise how much less stressful it is with me home at week ends for a few months.

my ds goes to nursery 2 afternoons a week and he loves it, the only thing is they are so booked up i cant change him to mornings until september and when i do its 9-12 but the job is 9-1. oh why is it so hard for us working mums!!