Changing child's last name

[Girraffe1968]

Hi I have a DS whos 15 and hes got special needs.dad moved away promised to see him every month this was 8/9 years ago since he's seen his son. Is they anyway i could legally change my sons last name to mine as its pretty obvious that hes never gonna see him ( he only lives in runcorn) never paid me anything nor do I want it.just wondering if I would be able to change his laxt name .thanks

If he is on the birth certificate then he has parental responsibility and you'd need his permission to change it

I see you have put this in holidays, is the issue primarily about taking your son abroad without seeking the permission of someone who is essentially a stranger now?

@Anotheruser02

I see you have put this in holidays, is the issue primarily about taking your son abroad without seeking the permission of someone who is essentially a stranger now?

I put it in the wrong group chat 🤦‍♀️

I am in a similar position. But it can't easily be done before the child is 16 without the other parents consent. It does get easier the older the child is and the less he sees them. I looked into it and decided it would be best to do when my child is over 16. Up brilliant that point she is referred to my surname in anything that isn't formal including school.

Everyone on here always tells you that you can’t do it when you can. It’s not necessarily legal to do it without the other parents permission, but I did it anyway. I went on the deed poll site, paid the £15 and applied to change the name. I got asked to tick a box that said that I had the other parents permission, I ticked it, and that was it.
It’s obviously a risk if you think the other parent will find out and take you to court over it, but I’ve not heard of anyone receiving any sort of sentence over changing a name.

@Mydarlingmyhamburger

Everyone on here always tells you that you can’t do it when you can. It’s not necessarily legal to do it without the other parents permission, but I did it anyway. I went on the deed poll site, paid the £15 and applied to change the name. I got asked to tick a box that said that I had the other parents permission, I ticked it, and that was it. It’s obviously a risk if you think the other parent will find out and take you to court over it, but I’ve not heard of anyone receiving any sort of sentence over changing a name.

What site did you go on as lots of deed poll sites.

If you apply for a new passport they are likely to ask for proof of permission.

Or you can go through the court to change it legally without his permission

Just wait the few months until he is 16?

There is no pressing reason to do it now if he hasn't seen him for years anyway. What's made you want to change it now?

If you’re in the uk then go on the national uk deed poll service. I changed the name and they sent out registration certificates which need to be signed by someone who knows the child (I got my neighbour to). You pay for each certificate individually so you have to think about how many you’ll need, for example one to be sent to the child’s school, one to be sent for a new passport etc. You’re not allowed to use copies of the certificates so you need a certificate for each thing to you need to change the name on.

@rainbowthoughts

Just wait the few months until he is 16?

There is no pressing reason to do it now if he hasn't seen him for years anyway. What's made you want to change it now?

Been wanting to change it for a while.my son has special needs and non verbal.when he was about 6 dad fell asleep in house with door unlocked and my son was found by a main road by his self dad never told me it was the police and social services and dad was not botherd one bit .

See a solicitor.
. They may change it. It would be up to the df to get a court order to change it back.
I changed dd's when she was 1. Ex didn't bother...
A friend's exh went to jail. She changed her dc's via a solicitor... Best for the dc they said.