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Holiday while pregnant or with newborn

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Jerusalema2021 · 29/01/2021 17:40

So I currently have two DC, 3 and 2, I’m also pregnant expecting DC3.

Would you squeeze in a holiday pregnant with DC 3 and 2. This means that I will be around the pool heavily pregnant and unable to have a cocktail, look nice in dresses etc.

Or would you rather holiday with all 3 DC, DC would be around 8 weeks old but have the added extra of having to look after a newborn.

I have easy pregnancy and labours so not really thinking about any problems regarding those types of things at the moment

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OnlyFoolsnMothers · 29/01/2021 17:45

Can I opt out if all options: 2 toddlers and heavily pregnant is hard going, 2 toddlers and a new born sounds hard going. You won’t really be able to let your hair down with an 8 wk old so I’d at a push go for pregnant as less stuff to schlep and an extra pair of hands to hand the other two.

4redSocks · 29/01/2021 17:48

Have you been on holiday before with both toddlers OP?

FTMF30 · 29/01/2021 17:49

You've had 2 easy pregnancy and labours. It doesn't mean the 3rd labour will be easy as all births are different.

Where are you planning on going on holiday? And where from? Does it require a flight? You say "heavily pregnant" so how far along would you be? I wouldn't want to go on holiday heavily pregnant as it would be too risky and you might not even be allowed to fly anyway.

I personally wouldnt want to go on holiday with 2 young children and a baby either. Can't you delay the holiday until baby is older and coronavirus is less of a risk?

Foldinthecheese · 29/01/2021 17:50

We went on holiday with 3yo twins and a 4mo. It was perfect. The boys were easily entertained with pool and sand, and the baby enjoyed splashing about, but also took lots of lovely long naps. We sent the boys to kids’ club after lunch most days, and the baby slept in the pram while we lounged by the pool and had actual adult time together. Absolute bliss. God, I miss holidays.

Caspianberg · 29/01/2021 17:50

I would go with baby. But only if someone else if going to be looking after the older two whilst you chill

Heavily pregnant I was just tired, when baby was 8 weeks old he still slept like a dream and took long naps.

Shelby30 · 29/01/2021 19:19

I can't think of doing either tbh. It's not much of a holiday. Night feeds with a newborn baby and 2 toddlers!

I would prefer the 2nd option but go when baby is maybe 3/4 months old rather than 8 wks. I was still recovering from emcs both times and had an infected wound the first time about 6wks after baby. I would also be too depressed about my bikini body at 8 wks but thats just me lol.

FTEngineerM · 29/01/2021 19:23

I found lounging around with a newborn easier than being heavily pregnant especially in the heat.

But.. I didn’t have toddlers so I don’t know really.

mumcop · 06/02/2021 07:12

Don't 😂

SnuggyBuggy · 06/02/2021 07:15

Neither would appeal to me personally

Coconutfatfeast · 06/02/2021 07:42

Neither! Especially not if you have to quarantine on arrival.

TheLovleyChebbyMcGee · 06/02/2021 07:52

You don't know what type of baby you will have. When DS was 8 weeks old he would only sleep on either DH or I and it was a lot of work to get him sleeping. And he wouldn't sleep in the pram or carseat either, it was feeding to sleep or walking for 25 min, with DS in the wrap. It was so much work and a holiday wouldn't have been much fun!

But then, you DC might be a sleeper so it might be fine! It used to astound me after baby sensory that the other mums would put their babies in the prams and give it a half-hearted push then have coffee and cake while their babies slept!

elsaesmeralda · 06/02/2021 07:55

We went on holiday with a 5 month old and it was pretty great, good age to splash in the pool etc but we didn't have toddlers with us ! Can imagine it'd be much harder work with a newborn and toddlers

JaneNorman · 08/02/2021 13:22

You can’t just stop doing nice things for your toddlers because you have another baby! Life can’t go on hold like that.

Assuming your OH is capable of looking after the toddlers alone I think both could be fine. You don’t know for sure but I certainly wouldn’t be holding off on planning trips just in case. (The pandemic is another matter but you haven’t asked about that so I’m ignoring it).

I would probably edge towards going when pregnant. Probably more fun for your toddlers.

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Jerusalema2021 · 09/02/2021 20:26

It’s not about putting life on hold, we have the budget for one more holiday this year. So deciding whether to take it pregnant or with newborn in tow. Toddler gets a holiday either way.

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PinkPlantCase · 09/02/2021 20:40

When are you due? I’m due in June and don’t think it’ll be safe enough to travel before I’m due because of COVID. Equally I don’t think I could take a tiny baby on a plane with the infection risk either.

We’ve opted for a U.K. holiday around August. We can cancel right up to the day of a arrival so very flexible.

ChalkDinosaur · 09/02/2021 20:43

I'd probably go for pregnancy just because the newborn is more of an unknown factor in terms of sleep, fussiness etc!

toolazytothinkofausername · 09/02/2021 20:50

@Jerusalema2021

It’s not about putting life on hold, we have the budget for one more holiday this year. So deciding whether to take it pregnant or with newborn in tow. Toddler gets a holiday either way.

One more holiday?!? How many have you been on this year?

Lazypuppy · 09/02/2021 20:52

I would go for after with a newborn, unless you manage to go when you aren't heavily pregnant.

Holiday with a newborn is pretty easy, lots of sleep, feed etc same as at home and you can sunbathe whilst baby lies in the shade!

WineInTheWillows · 09/02/2021 20:57

Newborn, every time. If baby decides to make an early appearance when you're abroad, it could be quite a big headache, administratively speaking!

AngelDelightUK · 09/02/2021 21:03

Realistically is going abroad going to be an easy thing to do this year? I’d be inclined to stick to the country you live in but go to the coast in a cottage or caravan. That way, if the baby is crying all night you won’t be worried about disturbing anyone else

Jasmin3Tea · 09/02/2021 21:07

It all sounds quite hellish, maybe pregnant if I had to choose. One last hoorah before baby.

orchidsonabudget · 09/02/2021 21:09

Where would you be going with essential
Travel on hold indefinitely? Also how heavily pregnant? What about insurance and covid risk?
Congrats on the more than one holiday budget stealth blast btw

NeedToGetOuttaHere · 12/02/2021 14:44

I went abroad when DC 1 and 2 were both 10 weeks, they were lovely holidays. They were sleeping through the night by then so I wasn't knackered. I took a little bouncy chair that could be dismantled and then built it when I arrived and used it around the pool area. I loved walks with the pram along the sea front. One holiday was to Cyprus during October half term and the other to Tenerife at Christmas time so temperatures weren’t too hot.

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