Rude people - family holiday

[Dippypippy1980]

We have just arrived Home from two weeks in a five star family resort.

I was appalled by, and and still smarting over, the behaviour of other guests.

Parents allowing children to watch iPads at full volume with no headphones in the restaurant, adults having very loud conversations over the entertainment so others had to move seats, sunbed booking, loud swearing in pool area. People queue jumping.. parents allowing children to run around the resort yelling in the early hours of the morning, I could go on.

The final straw was on the final evening, in the quiet part of the restaurant, when a woman had a shouty conversation with her husband over the heads of three tables of diners.

I might be uptight, but is this normal in all resorts? I like staying in a hotel, I enjoy the facilities and my daughter loves a large pool with plenty of slides. However, other guests don’t seem to understand how to behave in public - if 5his is normal do I need to gove up on hotels and book a villa next year?

I'm not a big fan of large resorts and much prefer smaller hotels (fewer shouty guests) or self catering.
I also think with this type of resort, the hotel's idea of 5 star and my idea are miles apart!

I avoid the big family resorts for this reason. I try to find small hotels and pay a bit more to get what I want.

Are there small hotels out there which have some facilities for children. The all inclusive has been really easy, and there are slides for my daughter to play on?

We are considering the Caribbean next year, but I am just worried it will again be full of loud, rude people. I don’t think a cruise would be suitable - and I would worry it would be very crowded.

We stayed here about 5 years ago - not all inclusive, no race for sun beds, decent pool with a nice slide and my then 8 year old dd had a great time.

www.hyatt.com/en-US/hotel/indonesia/hyatt-regency-yogyakarta/yogya
Malaysian borneo may also be worth a look - plenty of hotels in Kota Kinabalu with the facilities you want but perhaps a bit smaller.

Having been to quite a few large resorts this is generally the norm if your after family friendly.
The quieter resorts i have been to, while they may have a kids club, generally have a very small play area and no water slide etc.

Oh that looks amazing - I hadn’t thought of that part of the world.

Will do some research!! Thank you

Exactly the reason I never go to big hotels. We get a villa or private apartment and have none of that bad behaviour.

Don't go to Paris. Rudest people ever there when we went earlier in the year - and I dint mean the French. Huge group of Italian teens whooping and yelling every time the bateau louche went under a bridge and ignoring repeated requests from the crew to shut it. And dint get me started on the absolute clusterfuck which is the Mona Lisa room in the Louvre. I dint think there is a word for queue in Chinese and pushing and shoving small children appears entirely acceptable.

A lot of large family resorts will have elements of that yes. Never come across sunbed booking or any issue getting sunbeds but loud behaviour and kids running wild / being loud pretty much everywhere like that.

Less like it Club Med in France but kids are put in kids club all day long 8am to 6pm whilst adults do sports - not much fun for kids.

Kinderhotel we went to in Austria wasn't like that but smaller range of activities and smaller hotel. Excellent food.

Hotels we've been to in Scandinavia have not been like that including ones with fair amount on site.

Did Vineyard Hotel in South Africa, not like that at all, only a pool and tropical gardens with giant turtles in on site for kids.

Villa is the safest bet or Airbnb as there's just you. My kids prefer activities on site. Apartments in resorts can be a compromise but checks Tripadviser reviews - some aren't much different, some are nowhere near noise.

We went on a few Thomson cruises when my DD was younger. They were good value, great staff, great entertainment for adults and kids, also kids clubs, plus the ship stopped at a different port each day. It was surprisingly good. LOTS of food.

We find a happy medium is to stay at a hotel with all the facilities and activities for the DC but also hire a car and have days and nights out, even if it's AI

Then we are all happy. I can put up with the twats if I know I'm escaping them the following day.