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Going abroad

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Joey83 · 02/05/2019 11:05

Can I go abroad with my youngest who’s dad has pr and his last name. but we have no contact with him for years. He’s a drug dealer and raped me so for these reasons I do not want to communicate with him. Other people have not had probs in a similar situation. I’m starting to worry

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TheCanterburyWhales · 02/05/2019 18:57

As he has PR you're supposed to get his permission.

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Joey83 · 02/05/2019 20:40

We have had no contact since he left saying he wanted nothing to do with his child. His number has changed and have no idea where he is

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FlyingMonkeys · 02/05/2019 20:44

Going abroad - holiday or emigrate?

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Joey83 · 02/05/2019 20:48

Just a 7 day holiday.

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DeftandGlory · 02/05/2019 21:06

I got stopped coming back into to the U.K. from Europe, with DS’s friend! They were really stroppy and said I needed a letter but let us in.

Bonkers. Out, maybe, but why stop me when we’re going home? We have taken them both away a few times but this is the only time anyone said anything.

Probably depends on the country more than anything but mostly it’s down tinluck ai’d imagine.

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Joey83 · 02/05/2019 21:09

A lot of other people have said similar things. We’re off to Majorca. Tbh I’ve concentrated more on sorting things and preparing my eldest as he has autism.

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azulmariposa · 02/05/2019 21:11

The reason you weren't stopped going out is because we don't have passport control leaving the UK.

OP you should be okay as long as you take a copy of their birth certificate with you.

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Joey83 · 02/05/2019 21:12

I’ve got a copy of birth certificate ready 😁

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SJane48S · 10/05/2019 16:30

I had a similar problem with my eldest DD after her Dad decided when she was 6 months that he was too young to be a father & disappeared off the face of the earth. You may have problems - I spent a horrible 3 hours being almost interrogated in Canadian customs when my DD was 2. She also has a different surname to me. After legal advice after the Canadian joyfest, each time I travelled I printed a letter stating that as a single, unmarried mother I had sole legal & physical custody & detailed all info on each trip in terms of where we were staying etc. Each time I got the letter witnessed & stamped by a solicitor (cost £20-30 back then). I’d use the letter with a copy of her passport. I never had a single problem doing it this way.

PottyPotterer · 10/05/2019 16:35

A week in Majorca, you'll be fine. I've travelled there many times as a LP and never been questioned. My ex doesn't have PR but no-one at customs would know that. At worst they'll ask your DC who you are so they can confirm you're mum. Canada otoh I've heard is very strict

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