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Moving abroad without child's father

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Ax3l · 24/03/2019 15:00

I'm looking for some advice. I'm planning to move Europe for a year with my daughter who will be 13 months at that point.
Her father and I aren't together (and never married) does anyone know what the rules are regarding this? He doesnt know yet but I'm guessing he's going to kick up a fuss just to be difficult. He'll be able to visit as and when he wants.
Has anyone done this in the past and have any tips? Also on the whole moving side, paper work... thank you.

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Ax3l · 24/03/2019 21:33

@cranstonmanor thank you, worth a read!

@titchy won't need to go to court. Just need to know of there's paper work, what paper work is needed, if it needs to be witnessed... or if something simple as a hand written letter would suffice, Can only find advice for married couples.

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Dragonbait · 24/03/2019 21:40

You are changing your post OP - kicking off to be difficult is very different to not liking paperwork.....

Ax3l · 24/03/2019 21:42

@HJWT
Thank you! This is exactly what I wanted to know!! Smile

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titchy · 24/03/2019 21:44

won't need to go to court.

Well you will if he won't agree, which is what you implied in your OP.

JingsMahBucket · 24/03/2019 21:44

@Ax3l if your ex is uselessly shiftless about paperwork (my OH has a tendency for this), try going through his mother if that helps. I hate suggesting that because it’s trying to engage another woman to convince an irresponsible man-child to do his own emotional and admin work, but if needs must... If all else fails, petition the court. I have a feeling that you’ll be granted permission because he never sees her anyway and he’s not actually part of her life.

Also, I like the cut of your jib. Well done holding your own against the snarky mean posters. :)

Ax3l · 24/03/2019 21:49

@Dragonbait I read that its advised both parents and a solicitor be present for the completion of any paperwork.
I thought that was what would have to happen, which would mean either DD and I travel 6 hours and two trains to him or he to us to sit and go through forms which he'd find any excuse and cause an argument not to do. Talking from experience as he did the same with registering the birth of DD, took 5 weeks of arguments for him to come along (as we aren't married both parents need to be there).
It's not that he doesn't like it, if it's not what he wants to do, he won't do it.

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Ax3l · 24/03/2019 22:01

Thank you @JingsMahBucket :)
I read a lot of posts and I'm sure most people are on here because they enjoy attacking others.

I didn't realise I'd need to post my whole life story to get a simple answer.

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Ax3l · 24/03/2019 22:04

Before anyone else comments.
Thank you but I have the advice I needed now.

Was just after someone to say you need this form to be completed by you/him then signed by you/him/solicitor...

It's not going to be as difficult as I was originally led to believe.

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sofato5miles · 25/03/2019 02:26

Ax3l. I like you! Best of luck. Most people on here talk out of their arses.

You could perhaps DHL the docs to his mother for him to sign.

My friend, who moved abroad, had an undated letter signed by her ex. He was deliberately difficult, with no interest in his sons. He loves to hurt her. This was a decade ago and the boys are now over 18. I am sure she told me she would just kept copies and add a date if needed. I am sorry as i do not know if she ever needed to produce one.

Doyoumind · 25/03/2019 19:01

You would need to check in Legal Matters but I believe I am right in saying a letter signed by you both with solicitors invovled would probably not be legally binding if he decided to change his mind and go to court. Just so you are aware.

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