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My 10 year old doesn't want to go on holiday

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jjcole · 15/10/2018 20:45

Hi I would like some advice. I have 3 children 14, 10 and 7. We have planned a trip to Australia for a couple of years and we have finally got the money together. My 10 year old is now saying he doesn't want to go. I will be going with my husband (this is not their dad). Their dad is fine with thme going and is encouraging him to go but he is point blank saying no. My other 2 children can't wait to go so I feel very torn. My mum has offered to have my son but I feel very torn. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks.

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superram · 15/10/2018 20:49

I would set a date when you are booking flights. Mention it regularly, get Dad and granny to talk about it. If he still doesn’t want to go then book without him.

Notaballetmum · 15/10/2018 20:53

What are his reasons?
I’d do as the poster above says and keep talking about it but not force him. It’s a long way to go to be miserable!

HeddaGarbled · 15/10/2018 20:54

Why doesn’t he want to go and how long are you going for (I’m assuming the couple of years is how long you’ve been planning it for not how long you are going for)?

PrincessWire · 15/10/2018 20:57

You need to find out why he's saying he doesn't want to go - hopefully it's something that you can address.

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jjcole · 15/10/2018 20:58

He is a natural worrier anyway so he is scared of the plane crashing, being on the plane too long, not seeing his dad for 3 weeks, I have tried to put his mind at ease but he is still saying no. And yes I don't want to get all the way over there and him not enjoying it. Yes I'll get dad and granny to keep talking to and set a date to book. I just dont want him to change his mind once we are there as it will be too late 😣Thanks for your advice.

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jjcole · 15/10/2018 20:59

Yes we were planning to stay for 3 weeks.

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heather1 · 15/10/2018 21:01

Hmm, he is 10. So I think you decide for him, in conjunction with his Dad. That’s a lot of power for a 10 year old to have imo.

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jjcole · 15/10/2018 21:08

Yes heather1 that is true. That's the exact reason why I'm so torn 😣

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CherryPavlova · 15/10/2018 21:40

He’s 10. He doesn’t get to choose. Just tell him he’ll be going and don’t make a big deal out of it.

TokyoSushi · 15/10/2018 21:44

I'm afraid I'd agree, he's 10, he's going. I'd be amazed if he didn't live it when he was there. Could you set up some FaceTiming with his Dad while he's away?

Starlight345 · 15/10/2018 21:44

I would agree 10 year old doesn’t decide.

I would approach from the angle we are going but will talk how we can help with your worries. Face time to dad etc.

TokyoSushi · 15/10/2018 21:44

**love it

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jjcole · 15/10/2018 21:57

Thanks for your advice guys. Yes he can face time his dad a lot. Think I need to be firm. Thanks again.

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Meandyoumake2 · 15/10/2018 21:59

If he's worried could you maybe show him pics talk about things you will
Be doing etc to distract him and plenty of FaceTiming home!

Glaciferous · 15/10/2018 23:33

Why doesn't he want to go?

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