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Really want to go abroad but can't

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heatwave2018 · 05/07/2018 13:10

Sadly the only person I can go away with on holiday is due to have a hip replacement soon and is unable to travel. I have no friends or family to go on holiday with and really don’t want to go on holiday by myself. I feel really jealous and sad that I have to stay at home. Anyone got any advice?

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Justmuddlingalong · 05/07/2018 13:12

I went on a city break alone. Or there are holiday companies specialising in solo travellers. Have a Google.

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heatwave2018 · 05/07/2018 13:13

I really don’t want to go on my own. I have bad anxiety and hate travelling abroad on my own :/

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Urbanbeetler · 05/07/2018 13:14

A tour group? One that is designed for lone travellers so everyone else is on their own and not in couples/family groups?

pennycarbonara · 05/07/2018 13:15

Why don't you want to go on holiday by yourself?

You experience more of the place that way, and talk to locals and other travellers more, as you aren't spending most of the time talking to the people you travelled with.

If the company is important, can you go on some sort of group activity thing, e.g. cookery course, so you can talk to people with a shared interest?

mimibunz · 05/07/2018 13:16

Guess you’re stuck at home.

NannyR · 05/07/2018 13:17

Exodus is a good small group travel company, lots of different ages and nationalities, singles, couple and friends travelling together.

Justmuddlingalong · 05/07/2018 13:18

What about a tour in your home country, would you have able to cope with that?

pennycarbonara · 05/07/2018 13:19

Crossposted. You also don't have to talk to people much at all if that makes you nervous, just what you need to do to get into your hotel room, order food, go to the museum etc, and spend your free time reading.

Do you feel able to do stuff like going to shops, museums and so on on your own here? What about in another town in the UK?

CrispbuttyNo1 · 05/07/2018 13:20

You don’t HAVE to stay at home. You are choosing to.

Deal with the anxiety and get something booked. It will probably do you the world of good and help you to gain more confidence.

When my marriage broke up I was in a really bad state mentally but I booked a flight to Lanzarote, a week in an apartment, and spent the week sunbathing, reading, having lovely lunches by the sea.

I wasn’t the only person there alone, there were plenty of others by themselves.

You can do it .

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heatwave2018 · 05/07/2018 13:21

It's the travelling that worries me plus it's looking like I will need to look after the person with the hip operation so I wont be able to travel anywhere at all. I’m really grateful for this great weather at the minute I just miss the swimming pool etc and I don’t have any room for one

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Thecurtainsofdestiny · 05/07/2018 13:34

I'm on holiday at home at the moment (chronic health condition means travelling far isn't a good option right now).

I am enjoying nice walks, exploring interesting local shops, doing some yoga, pottering in house and garden.

Have got extra books from the library and might try a craft project or two (not really a very crafty person but going to try something for fun!).

I am going to book a massage (maybe a pedicure too).

Am making sure my meals are things I really like. I have a frozen cocktail in the freezer and have bought some sorbet ice lollies.

Have had a meal out and a picnic with friends and will see a friend for a chat/ cuppa later in the week too.

I do feel like I'm on holiday. Best thing is I haven't had the hassle of packing and travellingSmile

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heatwave2018 · 05/07/2018 13:38

Thanks curtains I’m already doing most of that and doing a lot of what I would be doing on holiday it just doesn't feel the same :/

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Deux · 05/07/2018 13:38

You could consider an organised holiday based around an interest or hobby perhaps.

Arena Travel is one such company and they organise such holidays - quilting/knitting/art etc.

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heatwave2018 · 05/07/2018 13:58

Sadly no travelling for me :(

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BarbaraofSevillle · 05/07/2018 15:31

You need this thread Smile

FreeMantle · 05/07/2018 22:18

Well a cruise is great for solo travellers.
Lots of couples and families do things seperately and there is a choice of enforced dining on tables so you can meet people. I was dreading this but actually it was the most fun. We had an amazing table on the first night where we all got on well.
Then of course you can go ashore on an excusuion all done for you.
If you hate travel you can get on at Southampton which is dead easy. They'll even do a coach to the ship for the very risk adverse.

Wildlingofthewest · 05/07/2018 22:20

Go on a singles holiday?
They aren’t always about hooking up with someone but more a place to go with like minded people
I used to work in hotels abroad and there was a company called Friendship Travel that would bring groups of solo travellers out - it looked fine. Lots of chatting, lots of wine!!!!

FreeMantle · 05/07/2018 22:24

You can also take a wheelchair/ crutches on a cruise and there's doctors on board....

schoty77 · 05/07/2018 22:34

Either go by yourself, do a group coach trip or stay at home. Plenty of people don't go on holidays every year.. some never go anywhere because they can't afford it. Lots of problems in the world that are real and present, missing a summer holiday is not one of them.

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heatwave2018 · 05/07/2018 22:52

I know I have to stay at home that’s the point besides my medical condition means insurance is a fortune. All I wanted was advice on how to cheer up that’s all

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Wildlingofthewest · 05/07/2018 22:58

I’ve not been on an over seas holiday in years - can’t afford it!

Plenty of lovely places to go to in the UK, even for a day trip or a long weekend.

H0lidayzs3arch · 06/07/2018 12:15

Due to have hip replacement _ do you know the exact timescale because it could be months or years depending on their individual circumstances. I would suggest going to some local places on your own first, or a spa day or hotel or cottage with a pool or hot tub. Abroad could wait until the future ?

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heatwave2018 · 06/07/2018 12:51

In the next couple of weeks, sadly I have something as well that means insurance is extortionate :(

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H0lidayzs3arch · 06/07/2018 13:39

Save up and plan for the future ? I like browsing at holidays on the internet and in travel magazines. Look Money Saving Expert for tips for travel insurance. I've been on holidays on my own and with groups or with family and friends. I don't mind UK or abroad. Can you start a new hobby instead, something that makes you happy ?

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heatwave2018 · 06/07/2018 14:00

Yeah I’m planning for the future but it's just these next few months to get over with once it's winter again it's fine

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