Do I let in-laws take 2 year old dts to Florida for two/three weeks? (WWYD?)

[Kelly1978]

Please help, I have a dilema.

The in laws (the boys great-aunt, uncle, and great-grandmother) want to take the boys to their timeshare in Florida for three weeks in June. We have more family out there, so it would also be a chance for them to meet all them too, as they would also be staying at the timeshare. The boys do spend a lot of time with the family, normally a couple of weekends a month on average, and dt2 prefers there to home, but I am really not sure about three weeks. There is no question of us being able to go with them, financial reasons, and our older two will be in school.

I've already said I'd be happier with just a fortnight (since the longest they have been left is 5 days) but I'm still not sure. On one hand, it would be lovely for the twins, they are planning to do the disney parks etc.
But I feel sorry for my older two, who wouldn't be able to go, although they would benefit from time with us and being able to do things that we can't usually do when we have the dts here too. It's also a good ten hours from the UK< so if they were unhappy or ill, or anything it's not like I can jsut jump on a plane.

wow I must admit I am surprised that the responses are unanimous! Thanks for all the responses, I think you are all absolutely right. I agree that the seperation is too much at their age.
I will make it clear that I appreciate the offer, but I know they won't be happy. Maybe dp can tell them.

No, numbers of reasons:

• it's too far away
• it's for too long
• They're only 2, 2 yr olds need their mums and dads
• how would your older children feel (pretty left out I'd think)
• they would miss you

(and you might miss them)

I wouldn't have missed them today when they tiped soil all over my freshly swept patio, poured cola all over my coffee table, ripped the covers off their videos and stole each others' lunches - though I like the way you put that bit in brackets.
I would miss them like hell, that was my main reason for not wanting them to go, and I wondered if I was being selfish.

and the cola was mine not theirs .

Kelly, haven't read all the thread sorry.

BUT just to say that I probably wouldn't go for it personally. Its not really that the DTs would enjoy it that much at their age IMHO. I would also feel incredibly sorry for my older ones (if it was me) and I couldn't bear the distance and the time involved. I am a worrier too and I just don't think I'd have peace of mind not knowing where they were every minute of the day. I wouldn't say never, just not at this young age.

This is just me of course, and I'd never judge you for going for it.

Not in a million years.

As already stated, too young, not fair etc.

lol

NO WAY would I be able to cope with that. I just hate the thought of my (very young) children in another country to me and also the older ones missing out. I would wait till we could all go or they were MUCH older to go on their own (teens lol)