My ex is supposed to be taking DSs, 8 and 8, away for New Year. DS1 has a fear of flying after we had very bad turbulence on a flight earlier this year. They also both don't want to go away with their dad (they see him one day a week only and occasional holidays) but he is very keen to take them plus we are going to court next month as he wants to get a court order for fixed holidays/weekends etc. I am trying to reassure DSs that it's ok to go for 3 days and not to be scared of flying as it's very safe but I feel so bad making them go away when they don't want to, especially when DS1 has a fear of flying. I also have a bad fear of flying so really feel for him having to get on a plane tomorrow. My ex says the only way to get him over it is to do it which I sort of agree with but my instinct it not to let them go. It will cause massive issues with my ex if I now refuse to let them go at the last minute and very unhelpful in terms of the hearing next month but just want to do what is right/safe.