obsessions

[cjs76]

my 2 year old ds1 develops obessions about things!!!

I had ds2 in aug and we were abot the move hse so i took ds1 out of nursery as was taking a year out of work - he was always very good without his dummy then no 2 arrives and he wants it all the time. Around the same time I manged to get him off his bottle and gave him a sports bottle but now it always wants to carry it around with him although drinks very little milk from it even a night. I have now decided to go back to work 3 days a week in may ds1 will be 3 in sept and ds2 will be 8 months they will go 2 nursery for only 2 full days but want to stop these obessions before hand as he wont beable to have a bottle at all times at nursery! also a poor eater and want to get him eatting better have tried lots of things - eatting together, showing him his brother eatting, helping with eatting,etc.... any ideas??

Hi, my DS who is nearly 3 now always carries his toy train with him, I've watched him crawl around the bed in his sleep to find it. The nursery have been taking it away in the am when he arrives and they put it into a special basket where he knows it will be when he leaves. This is to get him to concentrate on other tasks but I find it is the first thing he asks for when I fetch him, before a hug or a hello. Basically I think these obsessions are quite normal, I think its jsut another comfort thing for them. Try and get him to leave it for parts of the day giving it back at the end but congratulating him for outings, hours of not having it/leaving it behind. We try and leave the train in the car when we go out and at home on the stairs waiting for him when he gets home. What about not putting anything in the bottle and only giving him a cup for drink that you take away from the table (make him drink at the table only so no messing) as soon as its empty. Then the bottle will seem purposeless? Good luck!

Mine carried a small plastic backed bib around with him for almost 12 years