First talk with Vicar about wedding. Is it o.k to..........

[Angeliz]

ask straight away which dates are available?
DP has FINALLY got me to agree and i'm ringing the Vicar this afternoon but i already know there are only 2 Saturdays available in August for chosen venue.
Will it be o.k to ask the Vicar for dates this soon or do we need to do promises and interviews or am i raving??

I just want to get the date for wedding and venue sorted and then i'll feel the pressure is off.

(YEAH RIGHT!!!)

just explain theres only 2 venues left for these dates,, is the church available

im sure he will understand

i asked my priest for my date when i went to ask him if we would marry us

Does he know you and/or has he agreed to marry you already?

If not it might be nice to do a preparatory chat before talking dates...

They will probably ask you what dates you are thinking of as part of your initial conversation. As long as it's your parish church I can't imagine that they'd want to interview you immediately. We booked a date by phone and then met with the parish secretary to sort out the adminy bits and costs etc.

Really you will have more to worry about than this!!

depends on the vicar!

I know our priest gets a bit miffed when people want to "book the church" - he prefers them to "talk about getting married"

I would gauge it from the conversation - he might well ask if you had any dates in mind

BTW - the pressure will not be off if you are arranging a wedding - just wait til people start complaining about not being invited etc!!!

I really have no clue have i ?
He knows us as he Christened our first dd but that was a few years ago. I'll try to get his reaction but i think i'll ask now i know it's not totally unacceptable.

If I were the vicar I would be annoyed that you were more worried about the party afterward than the church bit before tbh so I wouldn't launch into it right away no.

yeah CQ, but surely preists must understand that following a wedding there is a huge celebration with family and friends and its difficult to book them to match the wedding day?

its not just a party is it? its a celebration of your vows

So i asked and he was fine
I didn't word it to seem like i was more worried about the party afterwards, (as i am indeed no), but as kitty says, you have to obviously time the venue and the ceremony.

So i am getting married soon!! ARGH!
My Mm has already crossed one person off the list and my Dad asked he he could stay home and babysit and why can't we just have a registery office? !!
(i'm trying not to get annoyed as i know it's just cause he's nervous of crowds)

thanks