tiredemma, we stayed at the Port Orleans Riverside and one of the 'log cabins' (well, the kids thought it was real!) at Fort Wilderness. The former had a wonderful pool and the latter had a boat service to the Magic Kingdom, great for evenings there, both were really good hotels in their own right.
Got the park tickets from Travel City Direct , recommended on here!
We did 10 days, 4 at Disney, 2 away, 4 back. With 2 of the 8 days at water parks we felt relaxed. We did get up and out early but found the first hour was relatively uncrowded and easier to do stuff in, made sure we left at about 12, went back to the hotel, slept a bit and swam a bit and then went back to the parks at 6 ish. Like I say, the day we didn't do this we all suffered as the kids got ratty and hot and we got stressed.
We didn't find it too expensive to eat out, we know we could have got cheaper if we'd driven out of the resort but chose not to, for convenience. You can reserve Disney restaurants in advance, before you go if you want to. I would really recomend Boma at the Animal Kingdom Lodge and Whispering Canyon Cafe at Wilderness Lodge (if you eat there, you can get the boat to the MK later, leaving your car parked at the hotel).
I really could go on...! I loved the holiday and I loved planning it!