Hi, not read all the posts but I will add my bit .
Stayed in the Newport and Sequoia Lodge both clean comfortable and not over disney or manic. Newport was a bit more sofisticated and people say Newyork one is more grown up too. Make sure you book your breakfast slots when you check in. Breakfast is a continental buffet, ie cold meats, cheese and yogurts not sausage, fried egg and bacon. And not a hint of a character at breakie you have to pay extra for that .
There are a selection of hotels nearby that are geared up to serve disney and have shuttle buses etc.
Unless you go for a week you won't spend much time in the hotel so don't worry about pools and stuff. We were in the park from dawn to dusk.
First visit, 2 days for Disneyland and 1 day for Studios would let you do absolutly everthing. 2 days total would still give you plenty time.
Our 3rd visit the kids choose to stay in Paris and go to disney for the day. You can buy a combined RER (train) and park ticket. Takes about 50mins from the centre I think and staition is right beside the entrance to disney.
On every visit I found the parks, lake area, disney village and hotels to be pretty spotless, not many negitives really. Other nationalities that can't queue for photos is one. High season it can be very busy and longer ques but October and Easter hols have been reasonable, honest .
They do do it all so well, even the most sceptical of parents will be skipping through fantasyland to the piped music with a big grin on their face. Ok well I did .