Good evening,
I just need some advice because I can´t decide on what to do. I am a man who needs some non-family and friends female advice because its "my" first pregnancy. The sequence of events:
- Me and three other friends booked and planned for a motorbike tour through Vietnam around a year ago. Everything is sorted, including stays, equipment and vaccinations that should make me immune to meteor strikes....
- Planned trip was from end of February to first week of March.
- My wife just got pregnant (three weeks into pregnancy according to doctor - we just did an ultra-sound abroad in her home country).
- Wife insists that I should go. My mum insists that I am an irresponsible idiot if I do.
- I don´t feel like going, but I can´t get any of the money back other then the airport tax...I might be able to transfer the flights to a year from now, but I feel even less like going when the baby is just two or three months old.
Ladies, my questions to you is:
- IF I go, would you think that its less bad to be away at the very early stages of pregnancy or when the baby is two or three months? I understand that the first weeks can be terrible.
- If your respective husbands were in my situation, would you think of him as irresponsible if he goes away on an expensive, pre-planned trip?
- Is it a good idea to go at all?
Of course my priorities are clear, I love my wife and the baby and if there is the slightest chance that I am needed, I will stay. The only way I am going is if there is nothing I could do to make her life better or the baby safer.
Thanks for your help!