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PARENTS IN THE PLAYGROUND

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tewin · 07/06/2006 09:45

I've had a couple of runs in with parents lately (so called friends) and I feel totally ostracised. First one of the husbands had a really vicious and abusive go at me (I was totally innocent), was so hurt I kept a really low profile as it really rocked my confidence. Told me to P off, F off and called me a c**t! The wife kept away, due to embarrasment I guess but I still felt hurt she neglected me. Anyway just started to get back on track when one of the other so called friends (acquiantances) had a real go at me for talking bout her behind her back. Yes I did but it was not detrimental and I apologised she then went on to say I was nasty and other people had told her stuff about me and I say bad things. She refused to tell me who these other people were and now I completely keep away from the group and feel so uncomfortable to hang out in the playground like before. My confidence is totally shattered and I feel so low. I really am a genuine person and avoid confrontation at all costs. I am insecure and just want to be liked and accepted and therefore I DO NOT ROCK THE BOAT. I'm finding this so hard to deal with. There are just a few weeks left of term and I just want to feel "comfortable" to be able to stand in the playground with my child. Any advice would be really appreciated as I am currently a total wreck over this and its worrying me sick. I know I should forget about them and be bigger than that but I find it so hard.

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tenalady · 07/06/2006 09:49

Hello again, you poor thing you are going through the wringer. I would stay away from the playground myself and find another circle of friends. If things have got that abusive I wouldnt put myself in the firing line. Is your child of an age where you can take to playground and leave unattended? if so do that.

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tewin · 07/06/2006 10:09

Yes tenalady my child can be left in playground its just that its his last few weeks b4 he goes to juniors and we are not allowed in that playground (private sch) I just wanted to be able to enjoy the last few weeks left with him. These people obviously dont give a damm about me but I am so sensitive it hurts likecrazy. Its a very small environment, gods knows who knows what and says what. Just want to disappear and never go back. How can some people be so unfeeling.

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tenalady · 07/06/2006 10:14

You know at the moment it feels raw. The point is that all this will blow over in a week or so I am sure and you will be chatting again. If you need to be in the playground then gravitate to one or two people that you know will talk to you and dont worry what the others say. If they have an ounce of intelligence they will make their own minds up about who and what you are.

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tewin · 07/06/2006 10:34

Thanks tenalady, I agree absolutely, infact the nicer people dont seem to hang out in the playground much, guess theres a lesson to be learnt here. Just see it as a great shame that since we have to be there together its a pity that this little group have become so shallow and superficial and have resorted to adolescent behaviour. Makes me question do I want my children to mix with the offspring of people like this and sadly since they are in a little school they don't have too much choice.

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blueshoes · 07/06/2006 11:32

Tewin, I am gobsmacked that anyone could use that sort of language on another person, friend or no friend. They sound like really nasty characters, the sort I would pay good money to send my children to another school to avoid. Sorry, if that is too drastic a solution, but I would immediately avoid these people and the playground like the plague. You say nicer people don't hang out in the playground, well, I would take a leaf out of their book! Good riddance. Hang in there, it's their problem, nothing to do with you Smile

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tewin · 07/06/2006 12:11

Thanks Blueshoes, but guess what?, this is a PRIVATE school! I have been there for 8yrs and had no probs whatsoever with 1st child. These people are here with 1st children for last 2/3 years. Wish I could get away or at least make them DISAPPEAR!

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blueshoes · 07/06/2006 12:26

They say money does not buy class. Is it possible to find out where the nicer parents hang out? Perhaps not for these last few weeks but that would be my longer term goal. It's not your fault.

nightowl · 07/06/2006 12:49

tewin, just dont bother with them anymore. ive never known any playground gossip to not include bitching about some member of the group. this is why ive never bothered with the school gate chit chat and never intend to. heck, i got bitched about at another school playground once when it turned out the fella i was dating was the ex of someone who knew my friend at that school! none of them had ever met me but they all piled in! bunch of witches.

tenalady · 07/06/2006 17:26

Dont yer just hate women Grin

EmmyLou · 07/06/2006 17:59

I would just distance yourself from the whole lot of them for at least a couple of weeks. Dignified behavior seems to me the solution to such childish, hurtful, over-reacting nonsense.

Haven't ever come accross bitchy playground talk at my kids school - do wonder if I'm just naive or thick skinned, I'm sure it goes on but I guess in a village school you have a vested interest in not falling out too severely with anyone or if you do, not for too long.

Unpleasant for you I'm sure - leaves a nasty taste in your mouth this sort of thing doesn't it? Have confidence in who you are and hold your head up high!

mousiemousie · 07/06/2006 18:02

I am amazed that anyone would be sworn at in the playground. Why not talk to different people - surely there are lots to choose from?

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