So we've found two good looking places to stay in September.
Either pavilion de st agnan or grange du moulin
Both places seem lovely, with nice owners, good tripadvisor reviews etc.
Neither are fully booked (slow season this year apparently) and so may not be rammed with potential playmates for DD. She can get on with most anyone, she will be gutted if no holiday playmates (as will we as we'll have to play princesses/pirates/monsters , rather than lounging around supervising lazily).
DH suggested I post here just in case anyone else is looking for gites in a cluster with heated pool,children's toys, dishwasher, washing machine etc.. Took a long while to find some we thought looked really good and not Country Kids expensive.
If so please do feel free to take a look at these and if you book I promise not to MN or holiday stalk you(!). Will just be v glad to not to be sitting outside in an empty complex for a week with a bored little girl (whilst bfing her little bro' non stop at this rate).