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Current midwives, please give me your honest advice!

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meadowkoa · 29/01/2026 19:05

Hi there,
I am really wanting to go in to midwifery and go back to uni after wanting to go in to this career for many years. I’ve queried with local universities and it is possible. The only thing putting me off is the current state of the NHS and regretting my decision with how over stretched things are etc. I follow a lot of midwives on TikTok and it seems the job isn’t what it used to be. I’m under no illusion this job is easy and cuddling babies all day, but is it all bad?
if you are currently a midwife please could you give me your advice on the matter? Particularly newly qualified who have nothing to compare it to… what is it like?
thank you xx

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Thebeehiveflys · 29/01/2026 19:48

I’ve been a Midwife for 21 years, worked in all areas.
In a nutshell: it will give you some of the most wonderful highs where you couldn’t imagine a better job in the world, and in contrast it’s absolutely emotionally and physically draining and the potential to burn out quickly is very real.
It’s physically long hours (longest I worked was 19 hours I think), and during those hours you are giving everything you’ve got emotionally to everybody from every cross section of society (a double edged thing!).
The rewards are great when people appreciate you, or you can see you’ve helped someone and made a real difference and it’s satisfying.
It isn’t about the babies, or even delivering them for me, it’s about supporting women at what can be the most vulnerable time mentally, physically and socially, the role is rooted in enjoying making people feel safe and heard.
I find the pay fair for what I do, and you can make a lot in extra unsocial hours pay, I’m top band 6.
The nhs pension will let me retire at 55, I get 39 days paid leave a year (we don’t get BH as routine), and sick pay is decent - nhs sick policy is brutal though.
Be prepared to work part of every Christmas or NY depending on what role you take, nights and days mostly in the same week mixed too.
Working with teams of competitive people with a strict hierarchy in an all female environment can be stressful, but you learn to filter some things out.
It can be distressing and sometimes downright frightening if you are out alone at night going into homes alone etc, or faced with a very aggressive patient, and you will come into close contact on a daily basis with bodily fluids in most roles.
You will get some of the best, and worst, memories of your life and you have to learn quickly to look after yourself physically and emotionally very very well so you can keep on giving.
The wards can be short staffed depending on where in the UK you are, and you may be caring for up to 12 women and their babies alone frequently. Community is fun, it allows you to care for one patient at a time and fully focus on them.
There are many specialist roles now too - interesting roles.
I would say compared to 23 years ago when I first started training, some things are much better in terms of staff welfare, benefits to access at work, care advances and facilities for women, but some things are not as good as before, mostly due to pressure to tick boxes.
If you can I would try to find work as a maternity support worker, or similar first, even if only on the bank so you can see for yourself what it is and decide.
The role often asks you to work late, and to continually study to keep up to date and registered, we pay £120 per year to stay registered (you can claim tax relief).
To summarise: would I do it all again if I had my time over: yes! Will I be glad to retire as I’m very tired: Also yes!!
Best wishes.

meadowkoa · 29/01/2026 19:57

@Thebeehiveflysthank you so much for taking the time to comment. That was really insightful and helpful. I have thought about being a maternity support worker, it would be a good step to take but unfortunately I do not have time on my side! Xx

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Thebeehiveflys · 29/01/2026 20:01

Just go for it then, if it’s not for you then move on. I hope you love it and don’t look back! You can say you did it then with no regrets.
At worst you’ll leave with some cool memories and real human connections.
Good luck 😁

meadowkoa · 29/01/2026 20:05

Thebeehiveflys · 29/01/2026 20:01

Just go for it then, if it’s not for you then move on. I hope you love it and don’t look back! You can say you did it then with no regrets.
At worst you’ll leave with some cool memories and real human connections.
Good luck 😁

Absolutely love this mindset and something I’m trying to adopt! (In all aspects of life!) Just go for it rather than wondering “what if” thank you!! Xx

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Patchymama · 29/01/2026 20:11

I honestly think it's the best job in the world. 98% the best, 2% the absolute worst, perhaps more accurate. It's absolutely brutal right now, and I struggle to know how things will get turned around after so many years of systemic underfunding and devaluing of women's health. However, women will always have babies, and something must change, and as women we must make sure it becomes a priority. So that's why, 17 years in, and with 25 years left in my career, I am holding on, because midwifery must become valued again because women and babies are the start of everything. Come join us - it's not easy, but I do still think it's worth the fight.

HighStreetOtter · 29/01/2026 20:20

I do agree with what @Thebeehiveflys says. Though be aware pension age is same as state pension age so no retiring at 55yo for new starters. Ive been in the nhs pension scheme for 18 yrs and I won’t be retiring till 67! 🙈

I do think you have to be quite resilient and have good mental health to get through the training and do the job. If you have anxiety, worry about what people are saying about you or struggle with pressure then your mental health will take a battering. Shifts are long, 13 hours on your feet often with no break. Workload can be stressful. Situations can be stressful. But ultimately it’s very rewarding.

meadowkoa · 29/01/2026 22:00

Patchymama · 29/01/2026 20:11

I honestly think it's the best job in the world. 98% the best, 2% the absolute worst, perhaps more accurate. It's absolutely brutal right now, and I struggle to know how things will get turned around after so many years of systemic underfunding and devaluing of women's health. However, women will always have babies, and something must change, and as women we must make sure it becomes a priority. So that's why, 17 years in, and with 25 years left in my career, I am holding on, because midwifery must become valued again because women and babies are the start of everything. Come join us - it's not easy, but I do still think it's worth the fight.

This is really nice to hear. Thanks @Patchymama! I’ve seen some accounts from midwives on TikTok and it’s put the fear of god in to me so hearing stories like this gives me light xx

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meadowkoa · 29/01/2026 22:01

HighStreetOtter · 29/01/2026 20:20

I do agree with what @Thebeehiveflys says. Though be aware pension age is same as state pension age so no retiring at 55yo for new starters. Ive been in the nhs pension scheme for 18 yrs and I won’t be retiring till 67! 🙈

I do think you have to be quite resilient and have good mental health to get through the training and do the job. If you have anxiety, worry about what people are saying about you or struggle with pressure then your mental health will take a battering. Shifts are long, 13 hours on your feet often with no break. Workload can be stressful. Situations can be stressful. But ultimately it’s very rewarding.

Thanks for your input @HighStreetOtteri currently work in child safeguarding so hoping some skills are transferable! Xxp

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Thebeehiveflys · 29/01/2026 22:43

If you work in safeguarding then the Midwifery will be much easier I would say, it’s the safeguarding that makes me a bit down at times, so if you can handle that I’d say you’ll love our job.

meadowkoa · 30/01/2026 10:51

@Thebeehiveflysthats reassuring to hear! Thank you xx

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