Hi. DD will hopefully start uni next autumn and I'm trying to figure out how much the parental contribution should be. She's just applied to medical school - three courses outside of London and one in London - and wants to do an intercalated year as well, so that's 6 years total.
Bit of background: I'm a single parent, currently getting child support on an informal agreement from DD's dad. She lives with me and sees him regularly. This will end next summer, as DD turns 18 and should be starting uni Sep 2026. Because of my household income, DD will only qualify for the minimum maintenance loan. My partner has moved in very recently and we share living costs (except child-related).
I discussed with DD's father and we agreed to try and help her out with the living costs in full, so that she avoids getting the maintenance loan. However, if she gets a place at a uni in London, DD will likely need to get the maintenance loan, as the cost of living in London is way too high (roughly £6-7K higher each year, compared to outside of London). Minimum maintenance loan in London, away from home: £6,853/year in years 1-4 and £4,485/year in years 5-6.
She will get the tuition loan in any scenario, as we can't afford to pay that unfortunately. That's four years of tuition, as years 5 and 6 are paid by the NHS bursary.
Are these yearly costs realistic? I calculated for 12 months (except accomodation, which is for the academic year only).
- accomodation: £8,500 (or £13,000 in London)
- regular expenses/bills: £1,200 (mobile phone, Netflix, Spotify, contact lenses, gym membership, dental insurance)
- public transport, train, travel to placements: £1,200 (or £1,700 Oyster London)
- daily living (food, fun, clothes, toiletries, supplies etc.): £6,000 (or £7,200 in London)
- holidays & gifts - not included
This brings the total monthly parental contribution to the figures below (which her dad and I would split 50:50):
- £1,400 if she goes to uni outside of London (OR if she goes to uni in London, but gets the maintenance loan)
- £2,000 if she goes to uni in London and does NOT get the maintenance loan. (I very much doubt we can afford this... especially in years 5-6 when maintenance loan amount gets reduced)
This seems insane and a bit of a shock if I'm honest, as it's much higher than expected and what I read online on various sites. My friends with kids in indie schools are laughing at me, as they say uni is cheaper than independent school. But, we've never paid school fees, as DD went to a state school, her local mixed comprehensive, for both primary and secondary.
DD is willing to get jobs while at uni, to supplement her income, but I'm not sure how much a med student can work during the academic year due to workload... so it will likely be more like summer jobs or one offs?
Have I over-estimated the expenses? Am I missing something? Is it really a good idea not to get the maintenance loan at all? Or is it better to take the maintenance loan in any scenario, and maybe save those money that we would have given to her, and give it to get as a lump sum when she graduates?
Apologies for the length of the message. Any suggestions, opinions about the various financial options and considerations are welcome. Thank you.