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Best way to fund accommodation/living costs at uni

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bananasplit07 · 04/08/2025 08:50

My daughter is starting uni in September, living away from home, in catered student accommodation and I'm confused about the best way to fund her day-to-day living costs, so looking for advice/experience from others.

I am in the process of divorcing my husband - we have lived separately for the last 2 years and are in the middle of agreeing the financial settlement. My ex said that he would support my daughter financially while she's at university, but he now says he meant she should use the savings we built up for her since birth, which were meant to be for a house deposit. The savings are about £30K, which won't cover all the accommodation/living costs for the duration of her degree, but he then says once all the savings have been used up, she should apply for a maintenance loan from the government. I don't agree with this at all, as he is a very high earner and I believe he should just pay to support her from his own income.

If he refuses to pay from his own income, I'm wondering if it would be financially better in the longterm, for her to apply for a maintenance loan straight away, based on my income, rather than use her savings, and supplement this with a part-time job.

Although I know having to pay back the tuition fees and maintenance loan will be a financial burden on her in the future, I think it will be easier for her to do this monthly from her salary, than it will be for her to build up enough savings for a house deposit once she's finished uni started working, from everything I've heard.

What do you think/what would you do in my situation? Do you know anywhere I could get financial advice about this?

OP posts:
Firethehorse · 06/08/2025 10:44

I know this is off topic OP, but if you have both always told your daughter the savings are there for a house deposit, it is unreasonable for her father to change this. As she is now 18 can she not have a heart to heart conversation with her father regarding funding directly? Girls can be great at persuading fathers to see their point of view.
If the answer is a no, I would keep the deposit in a bond/high interest account, see what you can afford to contribute and then take out 2 student bank accounts if this is possible. The top 2 are offering £1,500 and £1,000 free overdrafts so use these before taking out a loan as the interest repayments are calculated from the day they are taken out. There’s also a £100 sign up bonus and a 4 year railcard from memory. Your daughter can maybe get either part time or holiday work too to top up her funds. Would your ex potentially match anything you give?

TizerorFizz · 06/08/2025 10:53

@clary There IS cheaper accommodation at Bristol! Dc just don’t look at it. What people pay and what they need to pay are two different things. @WombatChocolate Agree - people don’t look and believe everything they read on here or take a couple of students as evidence. Most universities heve a cheaper offering but so many students are picky snd won’t share a bathroom or go somewhere old to keep costs down. The friends you make will be just as good!

mondaytosunday · 06/08/2025 13:19

Very good points @grumpyoldeyeore.
I’m in the ‘fortunate’ position of earning quite low so my DD gets near the full maintenance loan and also qualifies for a grant from her uni. Plus she’s frugal - no getting coffees or snacks while out and about, no getting a bus if she can walk. The only thing I pay for is her phone. Her catered accommodation cost over £10k last year and I didn’t give her anything (her father is deceased). She still joined societies, went away for a weekend visiting friends, got a few charity shop/Vinted bargains. This year her shared house tenancy started in July and she’s paying for that from her paid internship. She is calculating £50/week for food and essentials over and above accommodation, though the bursary will give her more than that (she is living at home on breaks so I pay for her food then).
So depending on your income she may well be ok, topping up with summer employment.

LikeABat · 06/08/2025 19:37

The interest rate on Plan 5 (current) loans is inflation (RPI) so currently 4.3%. it is possible currently to earn more than that on savings so makes sense to borrow rather than use their savings. Do agree that the DF should pay the DD to top up the loan If needed. If she is with you during the holidays then that should count towards your share of the parental contribution.

Stoufer · 06/08/2025 20:02

LikeABat · 06/08/2025 19:37

The interest rate on Plan 5 (current) loans is inflation (RPI) so currently 4.3%. it is possible currently to earn more than that on savings so makes sense to borrow rather than use their savings. Do agree that the DF should pay the DD to top up the loan If needed. If she is with you during the holidays then that should count towards your share of the parental contribution.

When we were looking into it for my eldest in early 2023, the interest rate (RPI) was 13.5%…. I think it dropped after a while, but can be very volatile at times..
edited for typo..

caringcarer · 06/08/2025 20:08

You say your DD not our DD. Is your exh the father of your DD or not?

LikeABat · 06/08/2025 20:23

@Stoufer Is that plan 5? The rate has a cap which has never been above 8%.

Stoufer · 06/08/2025 22:23

@LikeABat The 13.5 % was the RPI at the time that we went to the school presentation about student finance in the Feb 2023 (before Plan 5 started in Sept 2023), and they didn’t really mention caps on the rates at the time - the discussion was all about RPI being the rate. But yes, they have been using a cap to avoid the peaks on the rates. Sorry that my last post was confusing.

ThisTicklishFatball · 10/08/2025 18:37

Drifting away from the main subjects. Reading threads like this makes me grateful for growing up in a village close to a town with train access to a city that had a good university. My siblings and I all studied there while living at home, always striving to avoid taking on any loans. We were raised in a household where loans are seen as debts that can snowball into serious trouble later on. My adult siblings still live at home and have well-paying hybrid jobs. Now I live far away in a place with both universities and vocational colleges, so my children will have options no matter which path they choose. I’ll cover the costs.

crumblingschools · 10/08/2025 18:41

@ThisTicklishFatball will your siblings ever leave home? Are you saying you don’t get mortgages

What about tuition fees, what if your DC want to study else where?

TizerorFizz · 11/08/2025 00:02

@ThisTicklishFatball Did you not understand how student loans work? You were obviously too rich to worry.

Stoufer · 11/08/2025 10:00

TizerorFizz · 11/08/2025 00:02

@ThisTicklishFatball Did you not understand how student loans work? You were obviously too rich to worry.

I am not the pp that you were referencing / responding to, and I understand the ‘too rich to worry’ is most likely a throw-away comment, but I just wanted to mention that I grew up in a household that wasn’t at all wealthy (I remember my mum in the 1970s skipping meals to make the food go further, and she also diluted tomato soup with milk and butter to make it stretch for all of us), and I was also the first in my family to go to university (in late 80s). My parents’ attitude to debt was that it was a really bad thing, and that you should save up for what you wanted, and pay for it upfront, rather than take on loans. I remember them really panicking (when their overdraft had crept towards £1000 (it was usually much lower). I think these type of experiences in childhood do affect how you perceive finances, as an adult. And your willingness to saddle yourself (or your kids) with debt repayments / extra taxes.

In terms of student loans today, there will be graduates who earn high salaries from the start who will pay it off completely, in however many years. For them, it will be a ‘debt’ rather than a tax. There will also be graduates who maybe only earn just over the threshold, for whom it will accumulate significantly over the decades, and they will continue to pay off a (relatively) small amount (a percentage of their income over the threshold), and for them, it is essentially a tax for 40 years, as they will never ‘pay it off’.

However, there is a band of graduates in the middle of those two extremes, who will perhaps be in a lower paid job for many years (so the amount ‘owing’ will accumulate significantly) but may find that their salaries increase substantially in their later years. Academic salaries are potentially in this bracket. As ‘loan’ payments continue for 40 years now, it may be that from the age of, say, 45-61, 9 per cent of your salary over the threshold will be a really significant amount. In this case it is also a tax, (unless the larger payments do serve to pay it off near the end of the term) but the amount paid will be much much higher. So it is the worst of all world for this section of graduates in the middle.

In some ways, I think altering the term from 30 to 40 years is an incredibly astute move, on the part of the Student Loans Company (as that extra 10 years is likely to be at the highest salary that a person will achieve, so the payments each month will be highest) - but not so beneficial for those having to pay them.

@TizerorFizz I know you have huge experience with your own dcs (in terms of university / careers etc), so I know that you will already know all of the above (and probably much more than me!), but I felt it was worth commenting, as I think the whole student loan issue now is so much more nuanced, and the suitability (or value) of it will only really become clear when then is a good idea of what career / salary trajectory there might be.

Anyway - the conclusion (in our own family) was that if we (and our dc) could reduce the reliance on student loans (through careful planning, and dcs being very careful with money at uni), then that is the best plan (for whatever career / salary they may end up with).

I had previously heard (irl) someone mention / describe student loans as ‘free money’ (this was before plan 5), and it worries me that so many young people perhaps have this view - and so maybe are not really budgeting. So I just wanted to put an alternative viewpoint out there.

redrobin75 · 11/08/2025 13:08

@Stoufer , yes agree it's thought teachers and NHS staff (not consultants) will bear the brunt of the Plan 5 9% "tax" due to the salary progression as outlined in your post.

TizerorFizz · 11/08/2025 13:16

@redrobin75 Not according to MSE and many others. The doctors earn way above most teachers. Many teachers and nurses get decent salary progression over 30-40 years of working. Many doctors don’t work for 40 years as their pensions are huge. NHs staff often retire at 60 as do teachers. Before 40 years is up. The worst hit are the ones who don’t have a professional career with salary progression. This isn’t people who have decent careers in nhs. It’s people like actors, artists and others who will take the full 40 years. The lower paid grads. Nor the average or above average earners. Doctors will definitely be ok.

Stoufer · 11/08/2025 13:47

Interestingly, when I looked at MSE in early 2023 (for Sept 23 start / Plan 5 start), it seemed to be saying there was absolutely no point in not taking the student loans and gave lots of reasons why it was across-the-board better. I didn’t really agree with that, and thought it was more nuanced, and it felt very strange that I was thinking the MSE advice was not entirely correct (or correct in all situations). I have looked at the MSE site earlier this year also, and the articles/advice on there now are a lot more nuanced, and seem to be saying pretty much what I was thinking in 2023.

Interestingly, in early 2023, I looked at the gov website for info about student loans (plan 4 was current one, and they were also talking about what plan 5 would be like), and there were definitely statistics in there (at the time) that said that they had projected that 88% of graduates who took plan 5 loans would never completely repay them. This definitely disappeared from the gov website though. And seems to be quite at variance with current stats I have seen bandied around. It is quite a disturbing thought though, that only the top 12% of earners will pay it off, the remaining 88% having to pay it for 40 years. I imagine those just outside the top 12% of earners will be on a really good salary - so 9% above the threshold would be a significant amount…

I think academics will def have a tough time on plan 5 though (lower salaries early in career, with higher salaries only much later on, if at all…)…

i also think thresholds will become a greater issue… my first graduate role (in a profession / regulated industry) was £8.5k per year… I imagine the same graduate role now (33 years later) would prob be £23-£30k. What is going to happen to the threshold for loan payments to start? My guess is that SLC will keep it where it is, and all jobs (even the lowest paid) will eventually be above the threshold…

redrobin75 · 11/08/2025 13:52

The minimum wage, £12.35 x 39 hour week x 52 weeks is over £25k so anyone in full time employment the April after graduation pays back on Plan 5.

Elektra1 · 11/08/2025 13:57

TizerorFizz · 05/08/2025 08:13

@Skybluepinky Yes he is!!! There is a parental contribution if dc are not on max loan. There has always been a parental contribution and it’s not changed. He cannot walk away when it suits him. He has responsibilities and contributing to university is one of them.

Morally this is right but legally no parent can be forced to “make up the gap” if they don’t want to.

Francinely · 11/08/2025 14:14

As I said upthread, those on a mid salary like teachers, social workers, nurses, will pay the most, double or more the amount borrowed (assuming full loans). It was pointed out at the timeline that the policy would hit women worst......

TizerorFizz · 11/08/2025 21:10

@redrobin75 Yes but not much on min wage, but it will be for 40 years. Women taking time off for dc and then working part time can avoid paying a lot too, for quite a number of years. The big ramp up is for £50,000 plus but the higher earners pay it off so pay less interest.

Best way to fund accommodation/living costs at uni
Students2 · 07/04/2026 01:54

kitchenplans · 05/08/2025 09:36

You think living off of £4900 a year after rent is a large amount, really? It's a very small amount, and I don't know any non students managing on so little. I think parents sometimes think its for "food", but it has to cover so much more. Transport, haircuts, books and Uni supplies, toiletries, clothes, laundrette, household products, prescriptions, dentisty and healthcare, phone, utilities (in private rented), gym membership/sports fee subs, and maybe even a modest social life! It's less than £100 a week to cover everything bar rent.

I agree with you - our twins are at uni and some of their friends are really struggling as their parents think they should be living off X amount but it’s just not enough. One child’s parents gives her £15 a week as a top up. It’s not because that’s what they can afford - she went to a private school - it’s what they think she should be able to survive on.

ShetlandishMum · 07/04/2026 02:05

TizerorFizz · 05/08/2025 08:13

@Skybluepinky Yes he is!!! There is a parental contribution if dc are not on max loan. There has always been a parental contribution and it’s not changed. He cannot walk away when it suits him. He has responsibilities and contributing to university is one of them.

You can't force him to pay.

Meadowfinch · 07/04/2026 02:35

TizerorFizz · 05/08/2025 08:13

@Skybluepinky Yes he is!!! There is a parental contribution if dc are not on max loan. There has always been a parental contribution and it’s not changed. He cannot walk away when it suits him. He has responsibilities and contributing to university is one of them.

Unfortunately, yes he can walk away if he chooses. Not morally right but it happens every day. Parents are under no legal obligation to contribute which is what makes the system so unfair.

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