Graduation gifts?

[NormaSnorks]

Been to DS's graduation this week. Obviously paid for all the gown hire, photos, some uni branded stuff (hoodie, beer glass etc) and took him out for a celebratory meal. With travel, meals, hotels etc it probably cost us over £1000 for the 3 days.
We also met up with his girlfriend and her family while we were there - they were staying an extra few days after us in the area.

DS has just posted pictures of lots of 'graduation presents' her family have given him, and it's not just a mug etc, it's expensive gifts (probably worth about £200+)

Now I feel crap because I didn't know we were meant to 'do' presents for her!
For context, we have had other DC graduate before DS and did the same for them - meal, cards, uni souvenirs etc.

DS's girlfriend is not British and is the first child in their family to graduate, so I sense this is a 'big deal' for them.

But I still feel crap and that we've been 'out-presented' and have perhaps offended them/ their daughter? Uurgh!

What should I do?

Nothing, afaik 'graduation gifts' aren't really a thing.

But if you want to do something, maybe you can think of a 'moving on to the next phase of your life' gift she/they might appreciate?

I wouldn't worry about it, it's just cultural differences. Hopefully her family understand that, just as hopefully you would have followed the cultural expectations if your son had graduated in his girlfriends home country.

I think it’s cultural differences and parents in the UK are more likely to help with first job sort of stuff like a first suit.

I’ve never heard of anyone giving a present to anyone other than their dc. It’s kind of them but you should not feel you must do the same. I would think they don’t expect it either.

Not sure why you needed 3 days though. I think we did the night before and then home but only due to distance. Cannot remember a meal out - I think DDs spent time with friends. Might have snatched a quick lunch. Ok by us. I remember both graduation days for DDs were really hot days.

@TizerorFizz 3 days was our choice to make it less stressful as was a 5.5 hour drive and midday graduation.
Had an early meal and DS went off with his GF & mates afterwards. Was all what he wanted, no pressure from us to do anything.

I got my son a 3D printed figure of himself in his graduation robes from my3dfigure.com and he was actually really chuffed with it. It came out looking just like him, cap and all. It’s now sitting on his shelf at uni. Bit different from the usual stuff like money or pens, and he got a laugh out of it too.

Nothing op just enjoy it and be thankful they spoiled him also and didn't leave him out
Note to the future if they stay together to also get her something at bday and Xmas

I sent my niece flowers when she graduated, we are very close
Sent flowers to my day too and got her some pearl earrings as she was always borrowing mine
Went out for a fancy dinner
Would not have thought to buy a girlfriend/boyfriend anything