Thanks for your thoughts. To add the extra detail asked for, DC wouldn’t need to pay for daily travel to uni as the fully catered accommodation would be within walking distance. And no, it’s not London.
I realise that costs don’t remain the same every week. Freshers is expensive and there can expensive weeks when they pay for something like a Ball or have to buy a new pair of shoes. If they’ve got the money for the term ahead, understanding expenditure isn’t identical each week and budgeting across a term seems part of the independence.
Again, I’m not so interested in exactly where the money comes from - us/loans/job etc…just want to make sure they have enough to engage with what’s going on and have fun, but also have no problem in it being tight enough to require some thought and budgeting. I don’t want them to be hard-up and not able to join-in or go out, but also don’t want them to have so much cash that they don’t have to give any thought to spending or make any decisions about it.
I know it’s a bit different for each DC and after the first term what seems reasonable might change, but to start off, it’s helpful to have some figures.
I’m hoping to sit down with DS and look at some figures - the price of accommodation, the number of weeks in a term and at home, what looks a reasonable amount per week of term beyond his fully catered halls. After that we will talk about where the money is coming from and talk about loans, our contribution, possible work etc. I want him to understand the costs involved. I suppose I’m just starting from the point of what is the cost of it, and working from there, not what can we give - and you get what you can with it.
One other thought I have is that DS already has some savings from his job and other bits. He will work a few weeks this summer too. Therefore, he will start with a bit of a buffer of perhaps a couple of grand. I’d always think a bit of a buffer is useful for everyone - esp if a big cost suddenly appears. He will have this, but I don’t really want to factor that into the base termly cost/spend, although having it will ease the pressure, if for example he has to pay some yearly club fees upfront, rather than spreading them across the terms.
We will be willing and able to fund house deposits for the year ahead which might be needed before the end of the first term. They ultimately will come out of his yearly income and spend, but he won’t have to draw on that first term’s income to fund them directly, if you see what I mean.
Thanks again.