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University Offers Coming In 23/4 - part 2!

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WombatChocolate · 09/01/2024 18:39

Following on from the old thread which was getting full….come and share the highs and lows of the journey that is A Levels and UCAS!

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catmomof3 · 21/03/2024 18:10

My daughter probably wouldn't mind sharing but she's planning to get all her relaxer cut out prior to starting uni (she's mixed and has afro hair but it's been relaxed for 5 years and is now looking damaged so wants to cut it out) and she's just really anxious about her hair which I understand but I've told her she'll have to make up the shortfall somehow.

BiancaBlank · 21/03/2024 18:10

I think it’s not so much that they’re spoilt, it’s just that en suites are available, which they simply weren’t in my day. And most people would prefer their own bathroom, given the choice.

Of course parents paying towards the whole uni extravaganza are within their rights to say they won’t fund it.

TiaSeeya · 21/03/2024 18:35

Back in my day I didn’t go to uni so I’m not making comparisons to that. I think it’s a bit much to call it spoilt. Times have changed.

Surely we are all spoilt as we no longer have to wait to look up facts in the library etc 🙄

There's a certain snobbishness on MN and elsewhere about roughing it at uni. Sure, if you can’t afford an en-suite. But for those that can that withhold it when their DC want it because they aren’t used to sharing with strangers - hmm.

HannahDefoesTrenchcoat · 21/03/2024 18:45

I think one of the changes is universities needing income from halls and a bit of an arms race in terms of facilities.

I try to point out that while I understand they don't want to be somewhere terrible (halls aren't usually truly terrible), in fact the academic year is short. They are soon home for Christmas and then it's soon May and they have more or less finished year 1.

Year 2 and 3 accommodation can be pretty awful though. One of mine is in 2nd year and a cheap house that looks like Fresh Meat/The Young Ones. 😁

stoneysongs · 21/03/2024 18:58

DD has never known the en-suite life which helps 😂
She sees it like showering at the gym or on a school trip and is thankfully ok with it.

DS looked around en-suite accommodation before he went to Nottingham and was actively put off by the idea of having a toilet that close to his bed, so that worked out well for us too 😂

Mytholmroyd · 21/03/2024 19:30

and was actively put off by the idea of having a toilet that close to his bed

That's an interesting viewpoint @stoneysongs that I hadn't considered before - I might insert that into our discussions about accommodation!

TiaSeeya · 21/03/2024 19:40

stoneysongs · 21/03/2024 18:58

DD has never known the en-suite life which helps 😂
She sees it like showering at the gym or on a school trip and is thankfully ok with it.

DS looked around en-suite accommodation before he went to Nottingham and was actively put off by the idea of having a toilet that close to his bed, so that worked out well for us too 😂

Most DC don’t have en-suites at home! But most do have a family bathroom that they share with family. Not strangers. It’s not the same at all.

stoneysongs · 21/03/2024 19:53

Most DC don’t have en-suites at home! But most do have a family bathroom that they share with family. Not strangers. It’s not the same at all.

Absolutely - as I said, DD sees it like showering at the gym / swimming pool, or sharing a bathroom on a school trip, she's ok with that. Luckily where she is potentially going there are basins in the bedrooms and while she thinks even that is "kinda gross" for some reason, I'm sure she'll value it if/when she gets there.

stoneysongs · 21/03/2024 20:12

@Mytholmroyd
I almost cheered when he said it, I must admit. I know what he means though - these are not large master bedrooms and the en-suites he saw had no window so it was a bit dank.

I was ready to point out that shared bathrooms are looked after by the cleaners, whereas en-suite owners have to clean their own. Didn't need that in the end but another potentially useful nudge 😅

In the end I think that spending money on an en-suite that could be spent on beer was the most powerful motivator for DS but I appreciate that an en-suite means more to some than others and can also be a necessity.

WombatChocolate · 21/03/2024 21:37

There are lots of threads on TSR from students who chose en-suites who after experiencing it, said it wasn’t worth the money and from those sharing who say it wasn’t as bad as they’d thought.

Of course, at this point, the people they will share with are total unknowns and strangers. They have only ever lived with family and the idea of shared facilities is an unknown they don’t fancy. But actually, in 2 years, when many have spent a year in hall with shared facilities and then a year in a house with 1 or 2 bathrooms, it’s much less of an issue and they are far more blasé about it.

I agree that in many halls, an en-suite room has tiny living space. Often a pod, like the type fitted in caravans in holiday parks, is fitted in what is already a small bedroom. Those pods do t have windows and are often very damp, and reduce what is already a small bedroom. Rarely are the non-en-suite bedrooms as small.

And I suppose it depends how much extra it costs, it seems in some places it’s not much more, but in other places it can add thousands to the cost. That extra cost is worth thinking about, given most students are borrowing the money and hvae to pay it back with interest over many years.

My DS is up for a shared bathroom. He’s not too phased by the idea and thinks of other stuff he can do with the money or how many extra shifts in his job that en-suite will cost. Where he’s hoping to go, some of the accommodation has shared bedrooms too. He’s not overly keen on that but if that’s what he gets allocated,he will cope. I know some young people have medical needs etc which mean an en-suite is pretty essential. For lots it’s something that would make them feel more comfortable and more and more accommodations offer them, as all the new halls tend to be built with them, partly as a way to charge more rent. But Ithink the horror at the idea of sharing is something parents can either encourage or dampen down with their own attitudes to such things. If they get allocated shared bathrooms,most of them will cope just fine.

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space99 · 21/03/2024 21:43

My DS has applied for the cheapest most basic small single room there is, so fingers crossed that’s what he gets.
He accepts that as he wants to study in London, he can’t afford a lovely en-suite room with a nice three quarter bed.
I’m sure he will survive, just like I did in the nineties, when we had one toilet and one bath between 7 of us. Not even a shower so we had to use a basic shower attachment. I’m sure it was character building!

Mytholmroyd · 21/03/2024 22:13

It's a tricky one - I have had one who had lovely flatmates and no issues with sharing facilities, one who had a male sharing who kept messing with their toiletries, never cleaned up after himself and made them very uncomfortable, then one who choose ensuite and was very glad she did because a couple of the males made the kitchen unusable unless she cleaned it first so heavens knows what the shared bathroom would have been like!

But it was only a year and then they could houseshare with people they liked - all of them with just other females.

DS is off this year and is keen on en suite and he is so messy I don't think it's fair to impose him on others. Hoping he gets knocked into shape by his flatmates!

Mandie74 · 22/03/2024 08:29

TiaSeeya · 21/03/2024 19:40

Most DC don’t have en-suites at home! But most do have a family bathroom that they share with family. Not strangers. It’s not the same at all.

But within a month, these "strangers" will be their family!
And they're sharing a kitchen with them too remember!

Mandie74 · 22/03/2024 08:42

Forget shared bathrooms, what about shared bedrooms? Any experience?
No decision made yet but a couple of the universities DD is looking at have a proportion of shared bedrooms - UAL in London it's a cost thing as it's the cheapest option amongst otherwise completely unaffordable accommodation, and Falmouth because it's a good arts university but there is a housing shortage in a small and remote place, and many of their rooms are shared.
Would that put you off entirely, or is it part of the experience?

TiaSeeya · 22/03/2024 08:56

Mandie74 · 22/03/2024 08:42

Forget shared bathrooms, what about shared bedrooms? Any experience?
No decision made yet but a couple of the universities DD is looking at have a proportion of shared bedrooms - UAL in London it's a cost thing as it's the cheapest option amongst otherwise completely unaffordable accommodation, and Falmouth because it's a good arts university but there is a housing shortage in a small and remote place, and many of their rooms are shared.
Would that put you off entirely, or is it part of the experience?

It’s very much the norm at US unis, and again boarding school kids will be fine with it.

I have two very different DC : one who is extrovert, life & soul of the party, happy to share whatever. One who is introvert, needs own space to recharge and a very private person. Guess which one is fine with shared and which one isn’t? It’s not rocket science.

My point is that DC have different needs and if I am in a position to afford to accommodate those then I think it’s a bit off to criticise just because it doesn’t sit with some preferred opinion based on one’s own past uni experiences etc.

Sparklypen · 22/03/2024 09:00

I shared a room back in the 80s and it worked out well. It was more the norm then and most ppl got on fine with their roommates.

UpsideLeft · 22/03/2024 09:07

Bizarrely DS said if he ends up having to share a room he doesn't mind too much

As for the bathroom, an en-suite would be nice but he's not bothered.

stoneysongs · 22/03/2024 09:11

I don't think anyone's criticising anyone else? Horses for courses and all that.

Shared bedroom in first year would be a definite no way Jose for both of mine. I think they would choose not to go to uni rather than have to share a room with someone they don't know. I guess it's possible that in a pinch they might share with a friend from 2nd year onwards.

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TooOldForThisNonsense · 22/03/2024 09:21

Son now has a welcome email from Edinburgh but still no offer?!

Headingto18 · 22/03/2024 10:06

@TooOldForThisNonsense yes DD has had a number of what seem to be positive emails incl one this week but no offer (as yet??) - we assume they are from a mailing list and dont mean anything in relation to offers

legobrickseverywhere · 22/03/2024 11:10

We have had the ‘life in Edinburgh’ email too this week. Still no offer. Has anyone been rejected yet from RUK?
Hoping to hear from them and St A by the end of the month, but not convinced now.

TooOldForThisNonsense · 22/03/2024 11:14

Headingto18 · 22/03/2024 10:06

@TooOldForThisNonsense yes DD has had a number of what seem to be positive emails incl one this week but no offer (as yet??) - we assume they are from a mailing list and dont mean anything in relation to offers

Probably, bit shite to get that and then get a rejection though eh!

my son is not too bothered as he’s probably going to take Strathclyde but dammit I want to know if he’s good enough for them. 😂

Hapagirl48 · 22/03/2024 12:01

We're in the same boat re: Edinburgh. DD has good offer from Glasgow so probably heading there and is even talking about withdrawing from Edinburgh but I've told her to hold her fire. It's stressful though, especially with those Welcome to Edinburgh emails.

Innisfree · 22/03/2024 12:24

TooOldForThisNonsense · 22/03/2024 11:14

Probably, bit shite to get that and then get a rejection though eh!

my son is not too bothered as he’s probably going to take Strathclyde but dammit I want to know if he’s good enough for them. 😂

This made me laugh, I’d be exactly the same!

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