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DS missed all the open days for unis

28 replies

Railwayroad · 12/11/2023 21:18

He’s not really sure what he wants to do or where to go. He really could do with visiting some unis. He’s left it late though and most don’t seem to have any now.

can we arrange to visit anyway? Or should he forget about 24 entry. He has a decent part time job so he could work for a year I guess.

bit of a loss to know what to do. Everyone else seems so organised.

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endofthelinefinally · 12/11/2023 21:20

If he isn't ready maybe a year working will give him some thinking time.

JanglyBeads · 12/11/2023 21:20

There are still open days, there's a site where you can search by date, will try and find it

orchardsquare · 12/11/2023 21:21

Mine hasn't been to many as says can't see the point as she can get all her information from the websites. If he wants to go, he should apply anyway (using websites, or going to look round the university campuses to get an idea of the 'vibe'). A lot will then do offer holder days where he will be able to get more of an idea.

JanglyBeads · 12/11/2023 21:21

www.opendays.com/calendar/

senua · 12/11/2023 21:23

He’s not really sure what he wants to do
It's an expensive mistake to make if he gets it wrong. There's no hurry; he can always apply another year. Don't do it just because everybody else is.

RagzRebooted · 12/11/2023 21:23

If he's not sure what he wants to do, going for the sake of it seems a bit silly. Working for a year and having a think about it might be a good plan. University isn't the only option.

orchardsquare · 12/11/2023 21:26

Actually yes, he shouldn't apply if he doesn't know what he wants to do, except as an insurance option. Maybe he should leave it until the end of January, when he might have more idea. A year or two out would be a good idea if he is happy to do this, especially as he already has a job.

Railwayroad · 12/11/2023 21:29

Yes good point about waiting to see. Thanks for advice and link all.

He is desperately to move away and experience student life in a new city. I understand this but yes, he does need a bit of direction.

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User562377 · 12/11/2023 21:32

Ds is similar, but without the decent part-time job.

He's going to apply for two business studies university courses but I don't think he's that keen on them. He's also planning to apply for 2 one year HNC courses at college. Or he might get a job for a while.

So he's keeping his options open with an UCAS application but I'd be very surprised if he took either of the places. I'll be advising him not to unless he suddenly develops a passionate interest in business. He could try the 1 year course and see how he goes.

He also hasn't visited any universities.

I also feel like everyone has a plan and has done lots of research apart from us so it's nice to hear we're not the only ones. (If that makes you feel any better...)

MetaverseMavis · 12/11/2023 21:32

Top tip - don't go to the other end of the country, it's expensive to travel home.

mondaytosunday · 12/11/2023 21:34

My stepson had no idea either. He went to Australia for a few months. Came back with a new appreciation of home, and got a few jobs (call centre etc). Eventually he got a job with the NHS in Human Resources and never looked back. He worked his way up, eventually had a team under him. Now has a good job, owns his own home and has a baby son.
University is not necessary for many jobs - my stepson had three years experience when his classmates were graduating and mostly still didn't know what they wanted to do.

user1494050295 · 12/11/2023 21:38

I work for a uni and you can come weekdays to meet student recruitment etc to ask questions and have a tour with a student

Railwayroad · 12/11/2023 21:41

It does make me feel better! Thank you.

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Railwayroad · 12/11/2023 21:42

Oh interesting…do you just e mail student recruitment?

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Mariposista · 12/11/2023 21:42

It sounds like he just wants to 'go to university', which sadly is not a good enough reason to go. Given how expensive it is, he needs a clearer idea of what he wants to study and where. Student life is part of it, but only part.

YoKookoY · 12/11/2023 21:51

Hopefully He might start to get more interested when his classmates start getting offers.

It's really normal to know what you want to do and it's not at all unusual not to go to open days. Offer holder days are usually more useful anyway.

He can wait a while and see if anything starts to appeal to him. How about ordering some paper prospectuses so he can leaf through them. Somehow they are more engaging than the online versions (although not as green)

He can also apply to just one or two courses now and then leave the others until much later in the process.

If he knows the rough area that he might be interested in then maybe he can apply to a related course and then switch courses at a later date. For example he might apply for computer science but change it to maths and computer science at a later date. It depends on how competitive the courses and Unis are though. It's obviously easier to switch courses at lower ranked Unis.

One of my kids was stressing out over not knowing what to study at uni and not having either a passion for a subject or a career in mind. She ended up choosing maths and loving it.

mrsdolittle · 12/11/2023 21:59

My DS wasn't able to do any Uni open days because of covid restrictions (was a couple of years ago). He researched online though and applied for deferred entry. Then he had a gap year last year and is now part way into his first year and loving it. His Uni is a long long way from home (and yes as mentioned up thread that makes visits home expensive and impractical) but he was determined he wanted to go to that part of the country. He did go to an offer holders day earlier this year and happily the Uni in question was a good fit for him. It sounds like the OP's DS isn't fully committed as yet. My advice would to be to defer or just simply take a gap year - plenty of time for him to make a decision

Vinrouge4 · 12/11/2023 22:03

We never went to open days as we lived abroad. Just showed up and somebody always gave us a tour and a chat.

Tortiemiaw · 12/11/2023 22:11

Mine is only going to one. She wasn't sure what she wanted to do but now has a firm idea and so is going to one of two she likes the most.
With ds, he applied after going to 3 he didn't much like and got the place at the one he hadn't go to! Saw it for the first time, and got the place at the interview

clary · 12/11/2023 23:00

YY offer holder days are really helpful.

Also for sure you can just go an look round. You won't be able to speak to faculty staff (unless you arrange it) but you can get a feel of the campus, city etc. We did this for DS2 as it was Covid and no open days ran really.

But I agree, if he is in yr 13 and not got any strong feeling wrt what course, then it may well be better to wait a year or two. No rush.

BlueskyBluesea · 13/11/2023 08:43

My daughter's uni was brilliant, I emailed the department she was interested in and they quickly arranged to meet us, we got a parking permit and head of second year met with us and gave us a tour....so accommodating. Their manner was the final tick in the box that made my daughter choose this university and this course. It's worth reaching out to individual departments at universities that your son is interested in and seeing if their can meet with you and show you round.

Greengrass8 · 13/11/2023 09:06

He is desperate to move away but has not done any research; doesn’t not what to study. Perhaps he is busy with school and work

What is his favourite subject? What do you see him studying?

Can you schedule a couple of open days for him and go with him and see how he feels? Maybe that will give him some motivation. Sheffield university is this Saturday.

If he still has no clue maybe wait a year

ifonly4 · 13/11/2023 10:31

To be honest, I'd say give himself time. He has a job and who knows what might evolve from that. Also, if he's not sure what he wants to do, then maybe he could visit a couple of late open days and talk to uni staff. He then has a few months to take on board what he's gleaned from those visits and look at courses at as many unis as he likes to find something he's passionate about or might take him into something he'd really want to do. He can then do visits later in the year and apply for 2025.

WombatChocolate · 13/11/2023 15:02

To be honest, it’s better to delay the year and use the rest of yr13 working hard and thinking g about what to study and doing some of the spring Open Days, so by September he’s ready to apply for something he really wants and with grades in hand, then to make a hugely expensive mistake.

Some students are mature and organised. By this point in yr12 they are thinking about next steps and planning their spring Open Days. Others are still in GCSE mode and haven’t grasped that yr12 is when most of the visits and key work that determines predicted grades happen. They haven’t actually found a subject they want to do and babe t grasped it costs £60k to go to uni and live away. Sometimes it’s all new to parents too and somehow yr12 has passed by without them realising the timescales either.

Going to uni, just because it’s the obvious next step and maybe what some friends are doing, is no longer the automatic auto-pilot thing to do. Those £60k of loans will triple across his lifetime whilst it’s paid off due to interest. When you look at it like that, making a rush decision in November or December about what to do and where to go, just to ‘catch up’ doesn’t make sense.

Some students take the year and work in their part-time job and apply then. Often they realise their part time job is t what they want to do for life and they then think carefully about what and where etc and apply with greater maturity. Some never actually go…they get into their job or find something g else to do or make local friends who also aren’t going to uni. For some, it’s a shame that they do t go and for others it’s probably not a loss.

All this said, every year some students apply well after the Jan early consideration deadline, even in July, Augustand September as UCAS does not close. The fact he hasn’t applied yet isn’t a problem. Not being exactly sure where to go is t a dealbreaker either as he can visit one or two anytime (no need for 9pen Day) and if he gets offers go to an Offer holder day in the spring. What is a problem is having no idea what to study. It could suddenly come upon him with a passion between now and August. And it’s possible to apply and go in Sept 2024. But if he isn’t actually interested in studying and has no specific plan, it’s too expensive to just ‘have a go’.

Time for a serious chat….is he going to do some research and get focused, or decide he’s not applying this year. The fact that many people have ent their UCAS now and are getting offers makes it seem closer and more real and will probably help focus his mind. A lot depends on what his peers are doing. If they are focused and getting offers and planning to move away, that will focus his mind. But if his friends have no real plans it can feel harder and a bigger leap.

What does he think he will achieve by going to uni?

DogLegMotor · 14/11/2023 15:16

@Railwayroad I sometimes think visiting uni towns/cities/campuses might light a fire under some students.

Degrees aren't just pure subjects lots are combined and there are probably ones he has never thought of either. If I were you I would spend an evening together looking at a good uni and seeing what courses they offer and see if anything sparks an interest.

You can absolutely tour campuses any time, some offer campus tours, just have a look at the uni website for open days, there are usually links under there for visits. Just remember that if you go in the holidays campuses especially will be very empty as lots of students will have gone home. Better to visit on a weekend or a weekday if you can manage it.

Not knowing what he wants means he shouldn't apply this year, I understand the pull of escaping the known but he needs to be committed to engaging with the work.