Parent working at the Uni their child attends?

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DD is a few years off uni yet but she’s already showing interest in a particular course/subject. It’s a particularly strong area for the university where I work so she’d be looking at courses there. It’s an expensive area to live in so she may live at home and study where I work. Does this seem doomed to fail? Has anyone a similar experience?

This sounds great I think she can go out and hang out at the accommodation parties and you'll know she's coming home safely to you. I would have some ground rules about 'just let me know by text if you decide to stay at a friends and not come home' just like she would her uni housemates hopefully? and think about whether you can sleep rather than wait up for her to come home from partying midweek as lots of student nights are in the working week. If it doesn't work living at home she can always move out for 2nd year. You might want to host some of her friends too I'm sure they'd all love some home cooking mid term.. I'd be all over this plan 😂 if you have a spare room you might even want to rent a room to one of her pals

She has all the time in the world to grow up away from you, she can travel
In the summer, she might meet a bf/gf who's flat she's always at, she might do a gap year on Australia after uni. No need to get into debt unnecessarily at uni

we are cheaper than the launderette and have an air fryer. We might be popular! Yes to ground rules.

I wouldn’t be teaching her but might run into her on campus.

UK universities adhered to data protection legislation long before 2018.

The Data Protection 1984 Act in the UK adopted the general principles in the Council of Europe Convention, while the Data Protection Act 1998 transposed the provisions of the EC directive into UK law.

The reason organisations suddenly paid a lot more attention to the Data Protection 1984 Act (the UK’s implementation of the General Data Protection Regulation (GDPR) is because of the substantial fines for organisation who did not adhere to data protection.

That should read:

The reason organisations suddenly paid a lot more attention to the Data Protection 2018 Act (the UK’s implementation of the General Data Protection Regulation (GDPR) is because of the substantial fines for organisation who did not adhere to data protection.

Well for most gdpr means post 2018. However it’s good unis didn’t share info before that. Lots of other places did!!

Most Universities are big enough for it never to be an issue but I do know that all mine matured hugely by moving away and having to "adult" for themselves as much as they benefitted from the degree (and mine were hardly molly coddled in the first place).
I know some people stay at home for financial reasons, and I know some students have some SEND that means staying at home works better for them, but - all things being equal - University away from home is an opportunity that I am glad mine didn't miss out on.

Technically yes but sometimes it can't be helped if you are teaching a class your child is in.

I have a number of colleagues whose children have come through our department and it hasn't always been possible for them to avoid teaching their own kids. Obviously they haven't corrected assignments/exams but if you're checking module results, as you are required to do, it's hard to avoid seeing them.

Two of my dc are currently attending the uni I work at. Thankfully they are completely different departments. It's not a problem. I have told them I have spies so will hear if they are not attending lectures though 😁

They both moved in to halls in first year and an appointment in second year and both have placements in other cities.

I had 2 DDs study the course I teach and one DD study a different course but at the same place that I work. All of them were determined to finish with no help from me at all! All of them succeeded and now earn far more than I do!

I don’t think this would be a problem. I lived at home for two years of my degree course and paid some rent, cooked some of the evening meals and had a job and a fairly separate life. Then I lived much further away in halls for my post grad. I was very young for my age and really enjoyed both experiences.

I worked at the university my child attended. It was big enough I never really saw them, unless they sought me out. They were off doing their own thing, on their own schedule.

Academically, you just can't mark their work or anything that requires objectivity. That's easily sorted.

It's not a problem and the perk for them is being able to get lifts in and out with you when it suits them.

My sister went to medical school where my Dad (a doctor) taught. I don't think there was any issues (though I think he got a break on tuition, this is the US so $$$$). His specialty was not hers so never her teacher. But he must have known some of the doctors she was taught by and at the hospitals she worked in. Anyway, as I say, it wasn't an issue snd he wouldn't have access to her records anyway and it would never have occurred to him to look if he did.
He may well have seen her at some point during the years she was studying and training but it was not a bad thing at all!

This is exactly what > 50% of young adults do, because they didn't go to Uni or military or work far away or become a professional footballer, etc. They live at home a lot longer. Most the kids in the area where I live don't go to Uni, much less "go away to University". They seem to grow into independent adults about as well as the kids who did get away to Uni. Maybe they do even better by going into world of work and managing own budgets & earning own crust

At Uni where I work, there is very limited access to any kind of student records. For instance, people can only see marks for coursework on the modules they teach on/mark/provide appeals for. Even finding one's way to that information is a maze and requires an individual invite.

I attended the Uni my father was a Professor at, but I was in a different department. We used to meet up for coffee as I never bumped into him on campus! I did live in halls for my first year but lived at home the second year, and it worked well. My parents were pretty hands off by then though and didn't judge if I was home late, and I wasn't expected at home for things like mealtimes so often bought my own groceries.

There was a discount on uni fees too, might be worth looking into that. Not all universities offer it but some still do.

There are no discounted fees.

Of course plenty of children don’t go to university and live at home until they’ve saved money to move out. I know this in my head but she’s my child and I worry!

I didn't go away to uni and neither did most of my friends. we lived in an expensive city which had good unis.

None of us are emotionally stunted and have successful jobs, are in stable relationships, have houses and have kids. I think you do need to transition from them being your child to someone you live with. So no monitoring studying, commenting on them staying out late on a tuesday night but also don't do their laundry and cooking. They will still learn to live on their own 2 feet

Most unis are massive-I work at a uni and have zero interaction with students or anything to do with them, as I work on research side. Depends on what your job is. Seems sensible to save money on rent and go to uni locally

There's a lot of water to go under the bridge before this scenario arises. She might choose a different uni. She might choose a different subject. She might choose a completely different career path and not go to uni at all. You might move jobs.
But suppose she was to go to the uni you work at, I can't see it being a problem at all. You aren't in the same department. You might see her wandering around campus but that would be it. I didn't have any contact with any members of staff who weren't in the department I was studying in.
The issue of living at home comes up regularly even when a parent doesn't work at the uni. She could live somewhere else but it would be very expensive and not make financial sense. A lot more students choose to stay at home these days than did when I went 25 years ago. It doesn't necessarily ruin the university experience at all - but you do need to have some ground rules in place, but also give her the freedom to be able to stay out overnight somewhere else if she wants, or to bring friends home or whatever - but within a framework of courtesy and respect for each other - ie. she contributes to household chores, she sends you a quick message if she isn't going to be home or whatever other "rules" you decide upon.

and the perk for them is being able to get lifts in and out with you when it suits them

As if a student would want to be in at 7.30am

Dd went to the uni I lecture at but was on a totally different course. I’d have had no way of seeing her marks, etc even if I’d wanted to.

she lived at home, we did say to her if she wanted to go into halls she could but she chose not to. We made a real effort to treat her as an adult. So we didn’t ask her where she was going, when she would be back, etc. she could come and go as she wanted without comment. She could have boys over, etc. she could stay out all night. She cooked her own meals, did her own laundry. She seems to have grown up ok.

I work at a University and have taught colleagues' children. They have to declare a conflict of interest and are removed from any moderation and marking of their child. At assessment boards they tend to leave for the course/ year where their child is presented. Never known it to cause any issue.

Most kids don't go to uni (stats still under 50% despite Blair!), and most of those who didn't still go onto a pretty "normal" adult life, so I don't think it's a problem at all.

I didn't go to Uni and stayed "living" at home into my early 30s but lived a perfectly normal adult life, had serious relationships, etc. I started my first full time "adult" job literally on the Monday, after leaving school 3 days earlier on the Friday. It was working full time in an adult environment that made me "grown up", not the artificial "inbetween" World of University. I was doing "adult" things like building up my career, having proper relationships, buying a car, having holidays with partners, friends and family, socialising with workmates and old school friends. I thought most of my old school friends who'd gone to Uni were still very immature.

Just the fact that you do care in advance about your DD having enough space to become independent is a good sign, that you would make it work ok. The issue are parents who don't see any potential issue.

I live in a big city with great universities, so majority of my classmates stayed at home for university. In some sense, it lead to "halls students group" and "living at home group" with different social activities pattern, but it is a normal choice for those who have the option.

Depends on what they're doing. Dd was in the library by 8am for most of last year.

So many teens in London stay home for uni I think the 'going away for it' is a very white middle class tradition, it's not normal in all social groups