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Funeral on first day of Freshers Week

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DottyLS · 11/09/2022 10:47

So the funeral and consequently the bank holiday will be on the first day of Freshers Week, with presumably all events cancelled for that day and most things shut. How do you feel about that? I just think it could be quite a weird and lonely day for them. We live close enough that our dd could come home for that day, but that also seems weird. What are your plans or will your dd/ds just play it by ear?

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user1487194234 · 11/09/2022 10:51

Just let them get on with it

They are all in same boat

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DottyLS · 11/09/2022 10:53

True but then at this stage they will barely have met anyone yet, if they move in Saturday or Sunday.

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Hellocatshome · 11/09/2022 10:54

Good opportunity for a bit of bonding round the TV in my opinion. They are adults now time for them to just get on with things.

Hotandbothereds · 11/09/2022 10:55

It’ll be bank holiday, freshers week will just start on Tuesday, it’s really no big deal - if they move in over the weekend they’ll be with their new housemates, surely students know how to take themselves to the pub?

JesusMaryAndJosephAndTheWeeDon · 11/09/2022 10:56

I'm sure they can get some beers in to their halls/houses/flats and have a bit of a do

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DottyLS · 11/09/2022 11:01

Will pubs be open? But yes you all speak sense Smile

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ShaunaTheSheep · 11/09/2022 11:02

They'll do whatever young adults do when left to their own devices. I'd expect the halls/uni to set up a viewing opportunity somewhere for this that are interested .

SliceOfCakeCupOfTea · 11/09/2022 11:03

I mean...of all the things to complain about, the fact that the funeral is causing a mild inconvenience is a bit out there...

Abraxan · 11/09/2022 11:05

I have no idea if bars, clubs, etc will be open or not. Nine seem to have said either way.

Dd isn't a fresher anymore but has tickets to a club that night, but no idea if it will go,ahead. As yet she's not heard that it's cancelled.

If they were due in university that day, I assume everything will just get pushed back a day.

Students will still be able to move in that weekend and ,I'd with their flatmates.

Dd went to university in September 2020. Nothing much was open at all due to closures, restrictions and tiered lockdowns, but they managed,

Abraxan · 11/09/2022 11:07

DottyLS · 11/09/2022 10:53

True but then at this stage they will barely have met anyone yet, if they move in Saturday or Sunday.

That isn't make much difference to their ability to socialise in my experience. Most students mingle and socialise with their flat mates from day 1 of moving in, drinking probably helps 😂
It's not until,a bit later that they may find other more like-minded friends they become more close to.

LIZS · 11/09/2022 11:07

I suspect they will carry on as normal , with maybe a few large screen showing the event. Students tend to make their own fun if nothing is laid on.

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DottyLS · 11/09/2022 11:11

SliceOfCakeCupOfTea · 11/09/2022 11:03

I mean...of all the things to complain about, the fact that the funeral is causing a mild inconvenience is a bit out there...

Maybe not so out there if your dd/ds is very nervous and anxious about the whole process already without this thrown into the mix.

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ErrolTheDragon · 11/09/2022 11:34

Make sure she's got stuff for making tea etc, plenty of nice biscuits etc if they have to do more as hoc getting to know each other than usual.

ProfYaffle · 11/09/2022 11:38

Hellocatshome · 11/09/2022 10:54

Good opportunity for a bit of bonding round the TV in my opinion. They are adults now time for them to just get on with things.

This is what I think. We're taking dd1, leaving on Sunday. I'm going to offer to buy them a box of beers or some cakes or something to oil the wheels a bit but that's it.

KalvinPhillipsBoots · 11/09/2022 11:46

Hellocatshome · 11/09/2022 10:54

Good opportunity for a bit of bonding round the TV in my opinion. They are adults now time for them to just get on with things.

I doubt any student will be watching it, students are for living not watching a funeral for a woman they've never met.

Framboisery · 11/09/2022 11:46

I've heard of 1 uni cancelling all freshers events. I think that is very bad and the Queen wouldn't have wanted that.

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DottyLS · 11/09/2022 11:48

The whole week!? Which one is that?

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Hellocatshome · 11/09/2022 11:50

KalvinPhillipsBoots · 11/09/2022 11:46

I doubt any student will be watching it, students are for living not watching a funeral for a woman they've never met.

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When I was a student we would definitely have watched it, especially seen as there won't be anything else to do that day. Any excuse for a party, get the drink and snacks in, stick it on in the background and spend the whole time talking over it.

ApolloandDaphne · 11/09/2022 12:00

Poor Lady Louise had her granny die during her freshers week at St Andrews. I'm sure other new students around the country will cope.

Soontobe60 · 11/09/2022 12:03

DottyLS · 11/09/2022 10:53

True but then at this stage they will barely have met anyone yet, if they move in Saturday or Sunday.

By Monday, they will have slept with at least 2 other new students, got very drunk, thrown up in the kitchen and possibly dyed their hair blue. They will also have met some people who will become friends for years ahead.
don’t worry, they’ll be fine.

BuwchGochGota · 11/09/2022 12:16

DS moves into halls on Saturday, and I have to admit I have wondered slightly about this. He's moving too far away to change the day or come home for the day.

He's quite Republican in his views and is a bit worried he'll be in a flat full of Royalists. I've pointed out that it may be a super quick way of finding people with similar views to him (look out for the other grumpy faces moaning about the cost of the funeral when people are having to use food banks...)

He'll have food and beer. I'm sure it will be fine.

I was in university for the 1997 General Election (end of 18 years of Tories - basically our whole lifetime). Although that was obviously further into the year so we'd made friendship groups already, it felt really momentous watching that play out on TV together. It may feel the same with the royal funeral for some - living through a historic occasion. Or they'll ignore it completely and just get drunk.

BrokenMatress · 11/09/2022 12:39

1 swig of drink for every year of her reign.

Hotandbothereds · 11/09/2022 12:58

DottyLS · 11/09/2022 11:11

Maybe not so out there if your dd/ds is very nervous and anxious about the whole process already without this thrown into the mix.

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I honestly don’t see how freshers week starting one day later makes any difference whatsoever, perhaps you should be reminding your dd of this rather than fuelling her anxiety (is it really hers, or yours in reality?)

fortyfifty · 11/09/2022 13:47

I don't see why that would be a problem at all. My dd moved in on the Sunday last year and freshers started on the Monday. Others at the Uni moved in Thursday, Friday and Saturday. I think it was better for those who moved in a few days before the week of nighttime events started. The students got to know the others in their flat before they were out in a noisy, busy environment. If there are not events the Monday of Fresher's week, the students will make their own entertainment.

BigSandyBalls2015 · 11/09/2022 13:54

I wouldn’t worry a lot of them don’t even bother with some of the freshers stuff. They’ll be getting to know their flat mates and settling in.

Pubs will still be open if they want to go out.