A thread for those of us whose DC are disappointed today?

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Congrats to all the DC who got their amazing grades but I needed to start a thread for those of us who didn't get the news we wanted this morning!

DS unfortunately got DDU with an E in an AS.

He's disappointed. So am I.

Luckily his second choice has accepted him BUT he doesn't really want to go there. To add insult to injury, the only accommodation available now is 40min bus ride from campus.

Bless him.

Anyone else want to join me wallowing in self pity?! Obviously I'm keeping positive in front of Ds but I need somewhere to vent my disappointment to!

Dd is very upset with her B,C and distinction star . The B is in accounting and she was sure she would get an A- missed the grade boundary by 7 marks but refusing to ask for a review of script or re-mark .

No plans for uni as doing a years paid internship with a view to a
Degree apprenticeship but still uncontrollable sobbing this morning . I'm incredibly proud of her especially that she still went into work this morning

Yep disappointed here. Predicted BCC and got DDE despite him saying most exams went okish. He's never wanted to go to uni fortunately but can tell he's still disappointed after 2 years of work.

Am really feeling for your DC and its okay to be a bit disappointed yourselves as parents - not that they've 'let you down' or anything like that but a few moments of 'oh, this isn't what we wanted/planned for' is absolutely fine.

My DD was due to take a-levels last year but the year before that she became very ill (eating disorder) and school was off the table. She tried to start a-levels again this year but it was too much strain on her recovery. Her 'path' in 2020 looked like politics at university but her new path (spurred on by a revolution in her thinking due to recovery) is starting college to become a personal trainer and then nutrition.

When she told us she wanted to stop a-levels completely I had a moment of "this isn't what we wanted" but honestly its been the best decision. I appreciate those who haven't made their predicted grades haven't "made a decision" but once the immediate pain ebbs away it does just mean a different path to their happy future.

Yes my DD missed her B grade by 3 marks and her place at 1st choice uni. After trying clearing where the course she was keen on disappeared from their website in the space of 30 mins, she's decided to take her insurance offer at different uni.

She's been brilliant and very stoic which I think is admirable in the wake of understandable disappointment.

Well, after yesterday's disappointment a bit of good news today - she had a job interview and got the job! (Costa)

Best thing for the moment - I don't think she really knows where she wants to go from here but now she'll be doing something productive and will be earning some money so good news!

It is difficult not to feel disappointed. However it is not the end of the world. The journey may take longer but you will still get there.

20 odd years ago I was not admitted onto my preferred degree course. I had to go through clearing and opted for a similar course. I was distraught and felt like a failure.

I graduated with a 2:2, unable to access any graduate schemes. I am in a good place career wise but it took me at least two/three times as long as colleagues who graduated with a first or 2:1.

A part of me feels unintelligent. I become anxious whenever I am about to start a new project or course. My first thought is to panic believing I do not have the ability. I do it anyway and discover I do!

This thread is so lovely.

Have a dd getting results next week and it nice to read about paths that have turned differently but work out so well anyway.

Glad I’ve found this thread - I feel like dh has had enough of me talking about it!
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DS got ACC - but one of those Cs was def not expected (the other C was disappointing but slightly less of a surprise). He missed his firm and insurance but has got a place through clearing to do the same course at a different uni and I think he’ll be fine there. I just feel so crap for him as he’s very hard on himself as a rule - this won’t help his self esteem.
We've asked school to get hold of the papers and either look into what happened (frustratingly he thought the exams went well in this subject)