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Requesting deferral

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Localher0 · 02/04/2022 00:20

My DD is having a major wobble about starting Uni this year. She has anxiety, ADHD & mild ASD all diagnosed this year and treatment/therapy is ongoing. She was super excited after accepting her place and then joined a Snapchat group for her halls which soon got bitchy - not directed at her but upsetting nonetheless.
Given her MH issues this year I had wanted her to be on an even keel before she left so had previously suggested she could defer if need be. She now thinks she wants to. So how does she do it? Wait until after results or request beforehand?

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Darbs76 · 02/04/2022 07:16

It might be worth waiting and see how she feels. She won’t have to be friends with the people who are being bitchy. Referring this year is problematic if she’s taking a student loan due to the changes, which could mean she’s paying back thousands more as the terms will change. So worth looking into that first before making any final choices

SeasonFinale · 02/04/2022 09:18

Plus there is nothing to suggest that the people in halls next year may not be the same or worse.

QuebecBagnet · 02/04/2022 09:22

She’s best of emailing the course leader and asking. It will vary from course to course.

QuebecBagnet · 02/04/2022 09:22

@SeasonFinale

Plus there is nothing to suggest that the people in halls next year may not be the same or worse.
True. But she might be in a better place to deal with it.
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Localher0 · 02/04/2022 18:36

I know that her flatmates/accommodation is a variable that she has absolutely no control over. She could easily be in a worse flat next year than this year but there's absolutely no way of knowing....
She's anxious that she's decided too fast - and that NTU is party central whereas she's quiet. We've discussed asking the accommodation team about quiet flats so she's going to email them this week.
I thought she had 2 weeks after choosing her firm & insurance in which she could change her mind but I can't find that out on UCAS at the moment.
With everything she's had to deal with in the past 12 months I think deferring is a good idea. Like @QuebecBagnet says - she could be much more able to deal with the things that are making her anxious now.

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MarchingFrogs · 02/04/2022 19:44

I thought she had 2 weeks after choosing her firm & insurance in which she could change her mind but I can't find that out on UCAS at the moment.

www.ucas.com/undergraduate/after-you-apply/making-changes-your-ucas-undergraduate-application

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