How are your first years doing? Mine’s had enough!

[AtiaoftheJulii]

Being on dc4, I thought we’d pretty much been there, done that with uni applications and experiences, but dd3 - although she likes her course - has been having a miserable time at her university, and has withdrawn. And then dh and I got covid so haven’t been able to collect her yet, brilliant timing.

It has a hard decision for her to make, but once done, she has been so much happier, and I’m sure this will be even more so when she finally gets home. She will be looking for a job which I think will be good for her as well.

She’s already done most of a new UCAS application for this September - has applied for joint honours rather than her original single as she has really liked one of her optional modules. And she is much more relaxed about choosing somewhere - she is applying for much closer to home (atm she’s 200+ miles away) and feeling much more “que sera sera” given that she spent ages choosing this university and really wanted to go there and it’s turned out to be an unpleasant experience!

Thought I’d post in case anyone was currently in a similar boat but still ummming and aahing Hope others re having an easier time of it! Are they getting sorted out with second year accommodation?

We are the opposite. My first year is having the absolute time of this life. He’s a total bore and EVERYTHING in his uni city is better than boring old home

He loves his course, it’s all face to face which I think really helps and has got 2:1 for all his assessments so far. Loves his halls although I think he could take or leave most of his flat mates. He has made some lovely friends, found himself a girlfriend, has a job and is living his absolute best life. He has found a house with 4 other boys for next year. It looks pretty grim but it’s cheap and I am not living there so it’s his decision. He struggled with some of his friends during sixth form and needed a change so I’m very very happy he’s so settled.

Hope your DD enjoys it better in a new place

So lovely to see them blossom like that 🤩

Mine has never really thrived at her uni but has ploughed through because she worked so hard to get there and thinks the degree at the end will be worth it. She’s at Oxford and the pooling system really didn’t work for her. She ended up in a college she really wouldn’t have chosen but was told that everyone loves their college so went anyway. That wasn’t true for her. She really would have preferred other colleges and has looked on enviously as those on her course in the college she applied for who all seem to be thriving.

But she has a job sorted and is excited about moving to London after finals. So it all works out in the end.

I empathise as my DD is the same and not sure she will continue, struggled with friendships. It’s difficult to see the road ahead but will look at all options. Keep strong for them best wishes.