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Starting a full time degree in October
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Sj802580 · 13/08/2021 18:19

Never posted on here before. Been with my partner for sixteen years, youngest is seven and oldest fifteen. I have four children...relationship not great.. never has been. Had a quick baby ( Mum said I was desperate for one at 29.. and its probably half true). I did an access course last year and passed with distinctions.. I never thought I would be a success. I have always been controlled by my partner, he's not a bad person in some respects, he's a decent Dad, but has always preferred me not to work etc. I'm 45 now.. if I could I would move on, I would. I looked after the kids so never had F all money (my little boy's autistic), I've signed up for an open university degree in October.. so much more i want to say but I'm feeling nervous ( not good enough). Also not been intimate with him for years.. i cant stand him in that way. Not told you all everything

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Edmontine · 13/08/2021 22:35

Congratulations on your access course success! And on signing up for the OU degree. Lots of people on MN have started first or second degrees in their 40s / 50s / etc so you’ll get plenty of support and empathy through your course.

How are you paying for the degree? Do you have a Part-Time Tuition Fee Loan? (I only ask because of what you say about your partner.)

You’re obviously very well organised so that should help you stay on top of your work.

As regards your dissatisfaction with your partner, that might be better discussed in a separate thread under ‘Relationships’.

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Edmontine · 14/08/2021 13:29

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Dragonfly101 · 15/08/2021 12:57

I started a degree at 44. I did first year part time and have just completed 2nd year full time. I have 2 kids 15 and 18. It is hard work but so worth it. I was v nervous going into it but have so much more confidence in myself now than I have had for a long time. I was a sahm for 12 years.
I found learning as a mature student better than when I was younger

What are you going to study?
Good luck.

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