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Oxford and Cambridge current students discussion thread

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sandybayley · 20/11/2020 07:26

Starting a new one as we filled it up!

Can't believe DS1 will be home in 2 weeks. Must remember to adjust the Ocado shop for when he's back. I suspect we may end up with a few days of his favourite meals 😊

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SnapSnapDragon · 04/12/2020 18:34

Safe travels everyone. I'm envious: I finally lost the argument with DS and conceded that it was his turn, given that I did the drop off in October. I would have loved the trip though, both the solitary drive and the chat with DS on the return. The fact that I am arguing about this is a mark of how much I am struggling with cabin fever at the moment!

ofteninaspin · 04/12/2020 19:22

Haha @Unescorted, I am braced ready for the laundry but very excited for DS’s arrival home. I suspect that he will sleep rather than chat on the journey back. DD usually sleeps for hours when she gets home. She has a habit of packing very late at night!

hobbema · 04/12/2020 19:43

My afternoon has been like Adrain Mole and his mother’s Christmas Eve shopping list, new fairy lights , esoteric food items we have survived without , a new “ non stick” tray for mince pies etc etc.
Those of is with empty nests 8 weeks ago who were planning on picking up old hobbies could do with giving ourselves a report card: must do better!

SnapSnapDragon · 04/12/2020 20:03

My report card would make sobering reading, I fear. I don't even have an empty nest, but I'm struggling without my usual outlet of choral singing so I've taken up a new, rather odd hobby: I'm doing old STEP papers for fun. Correction, I am attempting to do them, I usually can't get more than 3 questions finished on each paper and that's only in the Pure section. I'm not sure what's happened to me, I suspect too much time talking through maths with DS over Zoom. I'm sure I should be making advent calendars or buying mince pie trays, but I have a visceral dislike of Christmas. (Bah humbug)

Unescorted · 04/12/2020 20:28

I'm doing old STEP papers for fun
Steady on.....
I have taken up gaining weight. Not intellectual weight.

Ontopofthesunset · 04/12/2020 20:36

Yay! Two negative tests for DS! Off to get him tomorrow.

Ironoaks · 04/12/2020 21:25

I'm struggling without my usual outlet of choral singing

@SnapSnapDragon - I've also been finding this difficult. I've been trying to compensate by joining an online choir and have been watching streamed carol services and joining in, armed with 100 Carols for Choirs and my collection of carol sheet music.

I listened to the Advent Carol Service from DS's college, and joined in with everything from home, including Lauridsen's O Magnum Mysterium, which I love. I then did the same with the Advent Carol Service from my own (non-Oxbridge) college. I was a choral scholar and much of the repertoire was familiar.

I've downloaded the music to join in with the RSCM's Big Christmas Carol Service next weekend.
I've also contributed recordings for a carol concert with the online choir and last but not least I've been invited to join a small choir (3-4 per voice part) to sing f2f but distanced for a live-streamed carol concert from church.

Ironoaks · 04/12/2020 21:31

I'm also singing my way through some choral works. I've sung through Fauré's Requiem and all the choruses in Elijah, and I'm starting on Mozart's Requiem after Christmas. I might do the Bach Magnificat after that.

Ironoaks · 04/12/2020 21:32

(Sorry, I got a bit carried away. I will stop talking about choral singing now.)

OhYouBadBadKitten · 04/12/2020 21:46

I'll be going with dh to do the pick up because we are both sick of home and walking locally, but only one of us is allowed in to college to help carry. use the loo dilemmas!

ofteninaspin · 04/12/2020 21:47

I loved watching the live streaming of DS’s college carol service this week.

I have almost finished cleaning the house from top to bottom AND I purchased a new mince pie tin this week. Thankfully, I am now spared from excessive domesticity by the restarting of spin classes - my antidote to the sedentary nature of my job.

Hoghgyni · 04/12/2020 21:48

Keep going Ironoaks. DD has discovered how mindful chapel services can be when you need some weekly calm. Last night she sat in the cloisters as the organ scholar and 3 choral scholars entertained the crowds with medley of The Twelve Days of Christmas mixed with Africa's Toto. None of us have a musical bone in our body (good methodists can be relied on for noise rather than melody) but she's appreciating those who do & the joy they can bring.

Ironoaks · 04/12/2020 21:55

medley of The Twelve Days of Christmas mixed with Africa's Toto
Innovative!

BlackPuddingEggs · 04/12/2020 22:42

@OhYouBadBadKitten - I use the loos at Sainsbury’s in Kidlington in COVID times.

OhYouBadBadKitten · 04/12/2020 22:48

I used them last time Blackpuddkng - it feels a bit peopley but I guess needs must! Shame the park and ride loos aren't open.

SnapSnapDragon · 04/12/2020 22:59

I've missed the streaming carol services . Should have known that DS wouldn't think of telling me about these.

I like your style @Ironoaks. And I agree, Lauridsen's O Magnum Mysterium is sublime.

Hoghgyni · 05/12/2020 14:18

Oxford P&R definitely has loos which are open. You just have to watch the 10 minute parking ticket restriction or you've spent a lot more than a penny.

Ironoaks · 05/12/2020 16:42

DS is home! He packed minimally: his laptop, his calculators, four lever-arch files full of course notes, several rather hefty textbooks and a small bag of laundry.

His room was very tidy and he has left it with everything put away (apart from a box of chocolates labelled with the bedder's name).

He was quite chatty on the way home, and we got an insight into his daily routine. He sets his alarm for 7am every single day. Six days a week he gets up straight away and starts watching lectures at 8am, so that he can finish them by 10am and start consolidating, practising examples and doing work for supervisions. This leaves the afternoons free for practicals. On Sundays he still sets his alarm for 7am but allows himself a lie-in until 8 o'clock.

He is up to date on the term's 96 (!) lectures but some of his supervisors have set vacation work, and he also has a lab report to complete and some revision planned.

Hoghgyni · 05/12/2020 17:05

That is dedication Ironoaks!

mutterphore · 05/12/2020 18:18

Malbecfan - hats off to your DD for swimming in the Cam! We're all into wild water swimming and there's nothing like an icy cold dip - but she's a real stoic!

DS1 is home! He seems very happy and well and feels he's settled in at his college and adapted to the different experience than the one he'd expected. He still hasn't had his essays marked or returned or had an end of term 'report' but intends to read as much as possible across the vacation and hopes he's on the right track. It's lovely to have him home and there wasn't even much laundry for me to do either!

Tomorrow I collect DS2. Sadly, there's not enough room in my car to take DS1 along too, although he'd have loved to come. DS2 has had a spectacular first term, brilliant end of term report, has won an essay prize for a competition from one of the societies he joined, got a position of responsibility in the JCR and in a wider subject-based association, a place on his college University Challenge Team (though they rarely make it to the finals) and the rowing team, is part of the Chamber Choir and has had various 'university-wide publications' of articles, as a sideline to all his work. He's got some lovely new friends and had a delicious Formal Hall meal last night. I am so so happy for him after everything he went through to get to Oxford and his brother is also really pleased for him too.

Ironoaks, I also love Lauridsen's O Magnum Mysterium and will miss carol concerts this year. We do a lot of singing and music as a family and each year we have our own mini carol service at home where each of us writes and performs a comical song based on family events of the past year plus traditional carols. So I'm going to have to get some singing practice done!

Meanwhile, I feel like all I've done is work since I saw my DCs but have managed to make a homemade Christmas wreath and put up some Welcome Home signs to greet them both. Really looking forward to having us all togther again by tomorrow night.

OhYouBadBadKitten · 05/12/2020 18:31

dd is back home too. I crossed my legs for much of the five hours Wink She packed pretty minimally too. Didn't bring her notes home - apparently she doesn't need them Confused
She's sat with the cats gaming. Chinese tonight for us all to celebrate.

I wish we knew when they can go back though - just to give some clarity, not because I'm looking to get rid of her!

Malbecfan · 05/12/2020 18:37

I am home! I am knackered. My car tells me that I drove for 9 hours and 1 minute today, but I did take breaks. DH has gone to the aforementioned (by @goodbyestranger) award-winning fish & chip shops and the washing machine is already loaded up. I could not have fitted much more into the car, they have brought so much back with them.

Seriously, how on earth am I meant to do it when we all go to electric cars? Cambridge is 222 miles from my house. I did it in one go. The range of the best of them is only around 250 miles and that's not when it's dark, raining/sleeting or cold. It was all of them this morning on the A303.

It's so nice to have them both home. DD2 still has lectures etc and DD1 has a supervision, but both seem to have had a good term despite all the restrictions. I hope everyone else & their DC has a safe journey.

Unescorted · 05/12/2020 19:40

She is home.... priority was a cup of tea and a glass of water. Our tap water is a well known spring water and it has been missed.

Ironoaks · 05/12/2020 20:31

She's sat with the cats gaming.

Unfortunately our cats don't play D&D Grin so DS is playing online from home this evening with the university tabletop RPG society.

ErrolTheDragon · 05/12/2020 22:54

* Heroic driving, Malbec,* well done. I hope you had some of your namesake to come home to! Wine

Seriously, how on earth am I meant to do it when we all go to electric cars? Cambridge is 222 miles from my house.

Until and unless battery technology/charging infrastructure radically changes, the answer to that is likely to be a hybrid. A Toyota Corolla has suitable boot space for student installation...
However, things being what they are, ours won't be going out of the county for the foreseeable - as we anticipated, the plan is for DD to stay put. She wouldn't have wanted to come home for the full vac anyway.

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