How often are your second years coming home

[Teenageromance]

Just that really - ds went back early when his house share was available but now with lockdown don’t think he’ll be home before Christmas

DD is in Scotland and we're in England 700 miles away and neither of us can just take time off work to get her. She's struggled with lack of company and limited socialising away from flat, we've had messages today worrying about been left over xmas if the others go home. Sturgeon advising to not to travel over border. Us and DD have very much stuck to the rules and DD would pay for a test before she travels to protect others but ...

Most of the ones on my course are really concerned about taking Covid home and staying put as much as possible - even the shag-mad party animals have toned it right down. Helps the course have put a fucking crippling workload on us.

Mine came home last month for dh’s birthday. Obviously hoping he can come at Christmas but even without yesterday’s announcement he would not have been coming again before that anyway. As @DominaShantotto says, they are generally worried about bringing the virus home. Ds actually had it recently but thankfully would not have been contagious when he visited us.

Last year we saw him on average once a month...

I think he will possible be home for an extended period at Christmas- January assessments will be online so he may not need to return until after that.

@starfish4

DD is in Scotland and we're in England 700 miles away and neither of us can just take time off work to get her. She's struggled with lack of company and limited socialising away from flat, we've had messages today worrying about been left over xmas if the others go home. Sturgeon advising to not to travel over border. Us and DD have very much stuck to the rules and DD would pay for a test before she travels to protect others but ...

Tell her to travel home when the other flatmates do or even before. Assuming everything is online anyway, as soon as term proper is finished (beginning December?), there is little point in staying put. My DS2 is only a 70 mile car journey away but we have only met up with him outside 3 times in 2 months, as no visitors are allowed in his student accommodation and we are avoiding hospitality. Normally he would come home for a weekend or two rather than us visiting but no overnight stays are allowed at the moment. He gets on with his flatmates but will come home as soon as they decide to leave whether that be next week, at the beginning of December or later. He won't then go back till January. I have reassured him that he will be home and not alone for Xmas regardless...that is the only way they can cope psychologically with this situation. Given your 700 mile distance, I would err on getting your DD home sooner rather than later though. Much as Sturgeon would love a border, with armed guards etc there actually isn't one (yet..); and the Scottish Parliamentary Elections due in May 2021 will go a long way to keeping Christmas as unrestricted, as politically expedient.

I would pay for flights of trains out of Scotland. I’m assuming at a Scottish university you can leave most of your belongings over Christmas.

dotoallasyouwouldbedoneby thanks for that. She does have an exam in Dec but can be done remotely. I suspect she's keeping on eye on things and certainly will do her best to avoid being there on her own. We can't just drop everything in our jobs, so it'd be last minute flight/train. One good thing is she has Xmas work lined up and I suspect if she comes home in next week, they'll be hours now. Hopefully that'd be an argument for travel, is she has work and they want her.

My second year went back at the beginning of August, I saw him (outside his house and we went to Sainsbury's) mid-Sept for a couple of hours, and he won't be home until Christmas now. Missing him.

How was she intending to get home if you work all the time? Travel is permitted for work. How would you have coped in any other emergency? Sometimes work for both parents really does have to come second.

Mine is home at the moment, first time we have seen him for quite some time. Just wondering if we now have to make sure he's back at uni before Thursday or if we can drop him door to door by car as we had planned next Monday.

Given that all his teaching for the entire academic year 20/21 is online, he has given up on his student flat and come home ... he doesn't expect to go back until January at the earliest.

@nokidshere

Mine is home at the moment, first time we have seen him for quite some time. Just wondering if we now have to make sure he's back at uni before Thursday or if we can drop him door to door by car as we had planned next Monday.

I have the same dilemma, but dd is at uni in Cardiff...

I would think that they need to be back by midnight on Wednesday. The guidelines basically say pick one place (uni/home) and stay there.

@Believehope

I would think that they need to be back by midnight on Wednesday. The guidelines basically say pick one place (uni/home) and stay there.

Yes this is what I'm thinking.

Mine hasn't been home at all, and isn't planning to come home for the new lockdown. He's better off where he is, with company his own age and slightly less competition for the WiFi.

@Lancelottie

Mine hasn't been home at all, and isn't planning to come home for the new lockdown. He's better off where he is, with company his own age and slightly less competition for the WiFi.

Ditto - DS also does a course with a strong practical component, some of which is still in person.

May come home for Christmas, depending on the situation. We saw him off in early September in the full knowledge we may not see him again in person until the spring.

It's hard, isn't it? But we had him here for the whole summer, which was an unexpected bonus.

Exactly. We had March - September continuously, so if he is then away continuously from September to March it kind of evens things up in the long run - in fact we probably will have ended up, on average, seeing more of him than we would normally have done.

Not seen ours since mid Sept.