If your dc has gone back to their student town

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How much contact are you having? It's our first child/adult going back into second year and has returned to her university town to have some of the summer with her mates. How much contact are you having with yours? I'm struggling after being able to talk daily during her being at home during lockdown. Feeling a bit ignored tbh but don't know what is reasonable to expect.

We're off on hols shortly but DS is planning to return to 2nd year around the 12th Aug. Have got used to having him around so will miss him.

It's really hard when they go back after having daily interactions for so long.

You have to let them live their own life.

Let them be. They're adults.

Mine isolated in her uni town and isn't home for the summer until end of this month. Haven't seen her since Christmas 😥

I’m curious that you say let them be - but you wouldn’t do this with any other relationship. I think it’s important to establish some form of regular interaction.

DD is going back in about 10 days. We all communicate as and when via WhatsApp - I really don't feel the need to stipulate that she or anyone else e.g has to call home every Thursday evening or whatever. She's not at boarding school...

My 5 vary a lot and did at that stage too - some at least a call a day - some much less. One of my sons who is going back to Bristol in the Autumn said he couldn't understand people going back to early actually as there is the whole academic year coming up and it is nice to have a summer here at home first. His flat mate (only 2 of them are sharing the flat ) is already back. They all just differ I suppose. However that son of mine did go back after he had finished most of his work/dissertation last term for a month and only came home as lockdown started so he kind of had a long long Easter holiday at home, then a sort of term (a month or so) at university then the summer holiday deliberately to keep it like a normal year's structure. His twin other than to collect stuff spent the last term here at home instead.

When my DD was at university sometimes we'd speak every day for a week or two and other times we'd go several weeks with just the occasional text.

I know what you mean OP. Mine hasn't gone back yet but I'm really going to miss her. She's been great company and I've loved having her home.

Usually when she's away we hear from her once a week at most. Not hearing much from her usually means she's having a good time.

We are taking DD back next weekend. She doesn't have many local friends and is really looking forward to seeing her university friends.

Both mine gone back but one is quite nearby and pops home for a few days when he feels like it. Communication is as it always is - random WhatsApp & pictures of food & whatever they are up to. Miss them terribly especially as we've just lost our dear dog this weekend - our house has never felt so quiet.😒

Erratic here! Twice a week maybe? Social tags etc.. She's been back a month as she needed to move out of halls & into new gaff. I think she's still planning to come back for most of August though.

Once or twice a week is fine. Otherwise there’s really nothing to talk about.

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