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Dd has failed first year at uni....what now?

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JacobReesMogadishu · 06/07/2020 20:03

Well I assume she has. She hasn’t done any assignments since Feb and had 2 big assignments to do and hasn’t done them. She’s having mental health issues and says she just couldn’t face any uni work. She hasn’t been in touch with uni/tutors about it, hasn’t talked to them. But she won’t have passed if she hasn’t done these assignments.

She says she could maybe repeat the last half of the first year, so return in Feb next year and carry on. But hasn’t actually asked her tutors if this is possible. Though she says there were people in her hear who had dropped down from the previous year and done this.

She’s been having mental health issues and just diagnosed with depression, ptsd. She’s been referred for CBT but we’re going to pay privately for thjs so she can get seen sooner.

It’s a really hard course she’s doing, architecture so stressful, loads of work. Personally I don’t think it’s the best course to do if you’re struggling with mental health and coping with the work. I’d rather she change degree and either start something totally different in Sept this year or even next year. But she keeps saying if she gets her mental health sorted out she will be fine. I think she’s kidding herself.

I’m worried that if she repeats the year and in a year’s time we’re in the. Same position. She will have wasted two years of her life and accrued more debt.

What happens short term. Can she sign on the dole now?

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bathsh3ba · 01/08/2020 16:24

This was years ago but I similarly stopped attending university in the second semester of my first year due to mental health difficulties. I chose to take a year out, working, and reapply to a different university. I was much happier and more motivated second time around and ended up with a First. I've since done a Masters and am now doing a PhD. So starting at another university after a break is another option to consider, especially as there was a traumatic incident at this university.

Pmspam · 01/08/2020 16:28

Architecture is a bitch. Speak to her university but definitely get her to think widely and deeply before throwing her back into it if you think this is a ongoing or underlying MH issue Flowers

PatchworkElmer · 01/08/2020 16:39

DH is an architect- it was almost 9 years of study to get chartered- a real long slog. I’m sure she knows that already though.

Could she transfer to another uni? Doesn’t sound like being around the boy in the year above her for any time is a good idea.

She really does need to open those emails and contact the uni though- or would she let you look for her?

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